Processional with mixed genders

We are gaveling 4 bridesmaids and two grooms women. Right now my plan is to have the grooms women standing with the groom have my two matrons of honor walk down. Then my jr bm and my BM my jr did not want to go alone, then FG and RB. Them me and my dad,

Following for responses - I have one bridesman and it’s really throwing me for a loop how to arrange them for walking back up the aisle

I like the idea of mix match. Have some groomsman walk alone. The one that are a couple together and same with bridesmaid and bridesmen. Is different and I personally like it more than having everyone walk on their own or just everyone as couple and then 4 guys alone. Mix and match it!

When I was in my sister’s wedding I was paired up with a groomswoman as was another bridesmaid and groomswoman. I think it’s perfectly fine to have two men walk together as well.

FH has a best woman (his cousin/best friend), but the rest of the BP is traditional. My sister (MOH) will be walking with her down, then back up, the aisle. Neither of them is offended by the idea, and both are finding it hilarious! Ok, glad I could give y'all a laugh!! The point is that bridal/wedding parties come in all shapes and sizes (just like family). So, as long as everyone is happy, I don't care!! I just want all the people me and FH love up there with us!

I wouldn't overthink it. Two men are perfectly capable of walking next to each other. It's not like they have to hold hands or anything coupley, just walk. I think you have too many people to walk individually, 12 just seems too long

You also don't need them to process at all. you could have everyone but your MOH and BM already standing up there, and then your VIPs process, then you.

View Quoted Comment Agree with this. We have mismatched numbers so FH’S to brothers will walk together behind my little sis (jr. bridesmaid), there’s not quite enough room for them to escort her on either side.

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Yup.

People can walk together. They don't even need to touch. It's fine

As a wedding photographer I usually see bridesmen and groomsmen or bridesmaids and groomsladies walk proudly together linked arm and arm back up the aisle! At our wedding, my second bridesmaid and the fifth groomsman are married to each other, but we are having them walk back up the aisle we their matching number (2 with 2 and 5 with 5).

It is ENTIRELY up to you how you want to do it - but if you’re concerned about how your wedding party will feel, just ask them!

2 men or 2 women often walk side by side in a procession, be it graduations or wedding parties with uneven numbers. The idea they need to be male female pairs is silly. It comes from the same silliness that assumes when you have a dinner party of 12, 16, 24, you must have an even number of male and female guests, and alternate seats, and also separate every couple for dinner conversation. Silliness. People would go looking for extra females or males, and not invite people they wanted to invite, to get even numbers. Most people do not do that at dinner parties or weddings. No prohibition on women going out un-escorted anymore, or walking by themselves like independent capable human beings without being paired up.

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This is probably what we'll do, we still have to ask everyone yet so there's plenty of time to asses preferences! Hopefully we can get most of our party together to get to know eachother a bit better beforehand but everyone is pretty spread out so not sure how likely that is.


Also, to clarify for other posters, I'm not under the impression that same sex members can't walk together - we've just got a weird mix of people of all ages who do and do not know eachother so I wanted to bounce ideas around. Thanks for the feedback all!

View Quoted Comment Sometimes it is easier pairing near strangers, regardless of gender, than singles of opposite sexes who know each other.

Okay. I am so glad you brought this up. Because my FI and I have had to endure two weddings where he was my boyfriend and I was not in the wedding party, and we aren't making the same mistake. The bride and groom where totally tone death to that. AND they made us sit separately from each other for, two not, one weddings.

This is very simple: Bride Attendant Processional (our's is Jesu Joy of Man's Desiring) Bride's men, can just follow along or accompany.

Groomsmen can follow groom up. (With a different song) Or they can help with the Mother of the Bride, and in our case Grandmother of the bride.

But, allow the people who are together with others in your party to be announced together at your reception. For our groomsmen we are planning on "Smart Dressed Man" by ZZ. Top for the reception. And for our ladies "Pretty Woman." When they are announced at the reception, do so with their significant others(your DJ/Wedding Band will be okay with this), rather than their matched pair for your wedding. And make sure you ask all the members of your wedding party who and where they want to be seated. This is a big deal and why many people hate weddings. They are going through the trouble to being your attendants. You should want them to be comfortable and available to the people they love who are attending. And let all members in the wedding party dance with whoever THEY want. Your dance floor will look more appealing, and they will all be grateful.