Program wording - complicated family

Thanks Katherine! I'll go with that order. We did "together with their families..." on the invites to avoid the confusion but, here we are. Thanks again everyone!

I wouldn't even do one. Seriously, you don't need one.

Does your dad want programs to demonstrate his financial contribution? If so, is he going to have a problem with all parents being named equally and he doesn't get a bigger font just because he's contributing more?

Put the subject on the back burner, his opinion may soften if you don't engage in a conversation about it.

Skip it.............too much chance of offending someone............or do it the same way you are doing your invitations and just use the "being consistent" reason. All bio parents have signed off on wedding invitation wording right?????

Miss S - thanks for the advice - hopefully when we get closer he'll lose this focus he has on the programs. I don't think it's to get recognition for the financial contribution...he basically wrote us a check and told us to use it for whatever we wanted - no strings attached. He's been fine with all decisions made so far and, besides the corsages and programs (wanting them and wanting his girlfriend to have a corsage), hasn't given much input. He just keeps telling us to have the day we want, so I feel like if programs will make him happy it's a relatively low cost item.

Midwest May - yes, all parents were comfortable with the invitation wording. I showed them all the invites and asked them/had my fiancé ask them one on one so no one would feel pressure or any awkwardness. Thankfully they're all good with it - it's a bit of a complicated situation with all divorced parents, some remarried, all with someone for a while, my dad providing a large financial contribution but other parents are contributing for smaller things, or providing a time/effort contribution with DIY decoration items.

How about "and family". That puts everyone under the same umbrella.