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Maddox
Just Said Yes July 2020

Pronoun badges at an Lgbtqia+ wedding

Maddox, on August 1, 2019 at 8:49 PM Posted in Community Conversations 1 14
So, first forum post. It's officially one year until we get married, my partner and I, and I came up with an idea that I want some insight or tips on. As a transgender man marrying a cisgender man, the idea of pronouns is very important. I have mostly trans friends, both on and off the gender binary, and I wanted to find a way to create an accepting environment at the wedding.

I'm considering either doing pins or stickers - probably stickers to lessen the price - where people can write down their pronouns. Part of the reason has to do with me wanting to avoid any misgendering of friends, especially those who do not "pass" how they want or who do not use what we may consider typically pronouns.

Most, if not all, of my guests are people who put their pronouns in their bios, so I'm not worried there. However, I don't know as of now who all my partner is inviting as I have not met all of his friends. I also know a lot of them are not as familiar with the idea of pronouns as my friends may be.

If anyone has done this or is thinking of doing this, what are your thoughts and feelings on it?

14 Comments

Latest activity by Kirsten, on August 4, 2019 at 2:39 PM
  • Kelly
    VIP October 2020
    Kelly ·
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    That's a good idea! I wish I had more helpful advice but I like it.
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  • Lex
    VIP September 2019
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    I actually love that idea! Maybe you could do different colors for different pronouns!
    I would definitely reach out to your partners guests and ask about their pronouns, and explain to them that it’s just a way to make sure everyone is comfortable at your wedding if they ask about it.
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  • Maddox
    Just Said Yes July 2020
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    Oh, that's a good idea! I like this a lot. Thank you for the suggestion.
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  • Kelly
    Super October 2019
    Kelly ·
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    I have never done this, but I follow the Maven of Mayhem on FB & Twitter & she is a huge advocate of doing this.
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  • Kelly
    Super October 2019
    Kelly ·
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    Or perhaps I should say that she is an advocate of using first names & then saying “her” or “him”
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  • M
    Devoted October 2019
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    Great idea! Smiley smile
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  • Nicole
    Devoted November 2019
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    I think this is a great idea! I am picturing escort cards that double as nametags with a spot for filling in your pronouns (or having the pronouns printed already if it's already known).

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  • 2d Bride
    Champion October 2009
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    I think that should be kept voluntary. I may or may not be nonbinary. (That wasn't even a thing when I was growing up.) I honestly have no preferences in pronouns. So while I am happy to use whatever pronouns someone else wants, I pretty much have a panic attack when asked to specify my own.

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  • Emily
    Dedicated October 2019
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    This isn’t exactly your situation... but this article!! https://apracticalwedding.com/trans-non-binary-inclusive-wedding/

    I’m a huge APW fan and would recommend it to anyone looking for inclusive, modern, realistic advice and etiquette. Don’t forget to read the comments, they are always amazing. Best of luck!!
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  • Alicia
    VIP August 2019
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    I think this is a wonderful, and fun way to help everyone be considerate and inclusive of guests they don't know or aren't as familiar with! I agree that stickers would definitely be a more cost-effective solution. Avery makes tons of printable labels in all shapes and sizes and you can get them off Amazon. Then you can design them if you want them to have yours and your partner's names and wedding date or a symbol or whatever you like, and print them for free. Totally different scenario, but I used them to make labels for our coffee cups and it was way cheaper than ordering custom labels from Etsy.

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  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    That's cool ! I'd personally want to call someone their pronoun they prefer so having that would be great
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  • AshleyR
    Master January 2021
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    Maybe you can set up a little display on the guestbook table or escort card/seating chart table with stickers and markers and a little sign explaining that guests may indicate what pronoun they prefer on the “name tag” and wear it? Kind of like a diy thing for everyone? This way guests can choose if they want to participate or not and your not stuck writing these all out and handing them out ahead of time for guests who may or may not want to wear them.
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  • Michaela
    Super May 2020
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    Yes I very much agree with Ashley to have it be a DIY thing, not a pre-done thing. Plus then you can have a little sign that explains your reasoning behind it. I think it's a wonderful idea for your friends.

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  • Kirsten
    Devoted October 2020
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    I think this is a great idea. Then it's voluntary ave those who want to participate can.
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