My SO of four years started eluding to me that he was proposing to me soon, by telling me to be ready by a certain time on a certain date, don’t make plans, asking me how I’d feel if someone proposed to me with a ring I didn’t like. I knew it was happening. A few nights before the proposal was to take place, I got anxious, really anxious. I really wanted the proposal to be a surprise and I feel he ruined that by dropping hints but I also hoped he was proposing because I feel I’ve been waiting so long. I stupidly talked to him about this, risking actually finding out and we started arguing and he confirmed he was going to propose on that date. I’ve been kicking myself ever since, we got into several arguments because I just kept getting upset and pushing him. We have cooled off now but personally I am really angry he gave it away but also mad at myself.
He said he will eventually propose again soon because I want a surprise he won’t tell me when, but I feel like the surprise element is now lost and he knows that I know, so it’s probably ruined for him too. I can’t help but think I’ll never have the surprise proposal of my dreams now.
I should have kept quiet. I have many regrets. I’m still really upset nearly a week later and I hope it gets better. Has anyone dealt with this? Has your proposal surprise been ruined by yourself or SO? I want to know how normal people react to this and know if I’m overreacting. Please be brutally honest!
I want this to eventually be a great memory.
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