Proposing At Someone Else’s Wedding

I can see both sides of this. As a bride, I can see it be exciting to “pass the torch” onto someone else, especially someone near and dear, as they get engaged. At the same time, however, I think it’s incredibly awkward for someone else to propose to someone when the spotlight is on another couple (aside from really putting someone “on the spot.”) Even if it were pre-arranged with the bride and groom, most guests would not know that and would not necessarily see it as a positive thing. Each couple deserves to fully celebrate both their engagement and wedding without awkwardly sharing the spotlight and/or holding back their emotions.

View Quoted Comment Same! I would be absolutely mortified if my fiancé had proposed to me at someone else’s wedding - even if the bride/groom approved beforehand.

The bridge and groom are pressured to say yes when someone asks them, they'll look like here's if people find out. There's a time and place and someone else's wedding isn't it.

This is rude to the couple getting married AND to the one being proposed to AND to the guests who came to attend a wedding celebration and not the proposal of two strangers. These are once in a lifetime moments. This trend needs to go away quickly.

I think it's rude and stupid even when the couple is on board.
This is couple's day and people who are here, come for the couple, not for the one who wants to propose and the partner.
As a guest, I would feel super embarassed and wouldn't applaud them or congratulate them, even if my bro or my bestie are involved. If someone ever dares to propose at my wedding, we would immediately ask our security guards to kick the 2 people out. I'm not kidding, I'm 100% serious!

OUR day is OUR day, other people already had (or will have) theirs!

Plus: why would someone propose in front of people who are not their guests? The only reason why this trend is a thing is to post a video on YT to get views and likes. Many people only do some things in order to post them on YT and had YT never existed, they would NEVER have done these .

The same about all groom & groomsmen and bride & bridesmaids 'specta ular dances' : they don't do it for the bride or groom , they only do it for the 👍.

I would only possibly be okay if I was asked first and agreed to it. Otherwise I think that it's tacky and rude to do that at someone's wedding.

I think it's rude. Even if the bride is your bestie, or especially if she's your bestie, why would you want to steal her day for your own purposes? For that matter, why would you want to steal your own special moment with your SO by having to hurry up and get out the way so the bridal festivities can continue?

And even if the bride is onboard, as a guest I'd feel that it was very rude. I came to see the bride and groom get married and to celebrate with them. I didn't come to witness you get engaged.

I think it totally depends.

If this was a friend I was close to and I loved them as a couple and really wanted them to get engaged and be married, I would probably be super supportive of it! But I think it would be really inappropriate for anyone but a super close friend, and I wouldn't appreciate it if I didn't know both people in the relationship really well and thought it was a good, lasting match. With that in mind, I can't think of anyone whom I would have wanted to share this with or have it happen at my wedding.

I personally would not go for that. Like another poster said there are so many other times they could propose. Just not at someone else’s wedding. And yeah... what if the person said no?

For me it would depend on who its for. There are a few relatives of mine for example that are very attention seeking and have literally tried to make aspects of my wedding about them, so if their partner wanted to do it for them I wouldn't want it to happen. But if it was for a friend or relative who isn't attention seeking or doesn't always try to steal the spotlight then I would totally be happy for something like this to happen at my wedding for them.

I would LOVE for someone to ask that of us at the wedding 😂 it's never rude to ask. It's rude to do it without asking the couple getting married first.

I wouldn't mind people announcing that they had just become engaged in the past weeks, or just found out they were going to have a baby, as long as the couple in okay with it, or does the announcing. I think actually proposing to your future spouse in a public setting is horrible, and the suitor should turned down for doing something so insensitive. What about if the person wants a public proposal? I am not into indulging drama queens, certainly at my wedding.

Eh, it's not my thing even if it's my best friend in the entire world. Why would she want to be proposed to in front of mine and my FH's family (whom she has never met) and not her own?

I'd be cool with it if they were a very close friend or immediate family and they asked us first. Hell, if I knew before hand, I might even offer they do it at the wedding.

If it's out of the blue, that's tacky as hell

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That's a very good point

I'm not a fan of proposals at weddings because of how the person receiving the proposal might feel. I wouldn't want to be proposed at someone's wedding, even if they were totally fine with it and in on it from the start. It just puts a lot of pressure on the person being asked, especially when it's during such a lovey dove day, surrounded by dozens and dozens of people...idk it's off-putting to me.

I also consider it kind of rude to ask someone if you can propose at their wedding. I see it as a day/weekend to celebrate the bride and groom, not to propose and also have the spotlight on you, but I can see how some find it a sweet gesture. Just not my thing!

Hard no. Have your own day as your proposal day, this day is for us. I am totally chill but gotta say no. Don't horn in our day.

View Quoted Comment 100% agree! Nope nope nope.— And even if the bride and groom agree— people will be congratulating them on your day. Pass for me too.

I would be furious if someone proposed at my wedding i'd go straight up and demand them to leave! But if the bride is okay with it and is in on it then it isn't rude. Personally i wouldn't dream of doing it tho

If the couple is okay with it then it’s fine (to each their own), but I can understand where some people are coming from when they say it’s rude to even ask because the bride may feel pressured to say yes. Although, I’m not focused on people pleasing on my day since my fiancé and I are paying for it entirely ourselves. In my opinion, if I’m paying for this extravagant and very expensive day for my partner and I, it’s going to be ABOUT US, not anyone else. After the proposal, guests will be more focused on congratulating the newly engaged couple and it will take attention from your day. Plus I think it’s tacky to propose at someone else’s event because they didn’t have to put any effort or creativity into it. I personally would not want to be proposed to at another persons wedding either.