Pros & Cons on a First Look

I don't think it's bad luck but I also feel like it takes away from that shock and awe surprise as you are looking each other as you are walking down the aisle I am torn though so I am interested on the other ideas

View Quoted Comment I feel like I will be pretty emotional that day so I think it would make it easier for me to keep my emotions together if we are to see each other before the ceremony 😜

Personally, I’m not sure I believe in the superstition as much as I want to follow the tradition of not seeing each other. I think the build of anticipation will add to the emotion of the day! But I definitely think first looks are a beautiful way to capture the raw emotion between you and your FH. It’s a tough choice!

My FH doesn't want a first look, he wants the reaction when I walk down the aisle. I didn't care either way but I think a first look is more practical especially if you are getting married at the same location as the reception. If you do a first look there doesn't need to be a cocktail hour.

View Quoted Comment I totally agree with this. I think it will help us to be more relaxed during the ceremony. We also want to enjoy some of the super fun cocktail hour we have planned so we’re hoping that having a first look, and therefore also taking some pictures before the ceremony, will allow us to get to the party faster!

So this is my current text message conversation with my mother & i 😂

View Quoted Comment 😂😂😂😂😂

View Quoted Comment Lol...to funny!!!

View Quoted Comment Lmao this would be my Mother’s exact response 😂

How you wish to appear before your groom on your wedding day is a very personal decision. Many people appreciate the tradition associated with waiting. Other people appreciate the opportunity to share a private moment on a very public day. Whatever you choose, I encourage you to make a determination that satisfies the desires of you and your partner. Happy planning!

View Quoted Comment I would like to do a first look but my parents are paying for the wedding so I feel like if she doesn’t want me to have a first look I should respect it 😕

View Quoted Comment Lolol gotta love moms

I think my FH and I are going to do a first look. At first I was totally against it but we have so much going on that day and I want for us to have a moment to ourselves. Plus my FH is extremely emotional. I know he will cry and won't want to infront of everyone. And I'm the same way. I think this will allow us to have real genuine emotions in the moment and not have to worry about everyone else around. Plus were getting married on the beach and I'll have a long walk to him. I want to be right up close so I can really see his reaction.

It is funny, the first tine I saw or heard of a couple seeing each other before the ceremony was during a wedding last year. I was helping at the church, and saw the coyple having their wedding photos with themselves and their families, to save time later. I was horrified that they saw each other before the ceremony because I had only ever been aware of the tradition to see each other for the first time while walking down the aisle. Then I started seeing the first look photos, and just loved seeing the reactions of the couple. Now I want to do this, but I wont have my makeup on or have my hair the same as I will during the ceremony. Ill also wear a birdcage veil for the ceremony. This way there will still be some differences between the first look and the walk down the aisle. My sister is not happy with my decision though, so I wont be discussing this with her further

We did a first look and the pictures are awesome. I’m glad I did it. Logistically we had to, as we only had about 20 minutes between the end of the ceremony and start of reception. It felt nice to feel like a team through the whole thing! And it was more intimate. Our parents and immediate family and bridal party (which was small, just 4 people) were there for the first look but that was it.

I don't believe it's bad luck, I'm just not going to do it. It's hard enough to keep my dress secret when we live together. Lol. I would feel disappointed if I caved and did a first look when I want the shock and awe moment. That being said, my wedding is very low key with no cocktail hour for posed photos. My photos are all going to be in the moment candid shots.

I dont believe in the fact that's bad luck. I like the idea of having a first look, think it'll help me with my nerves. But, FH wants to have that first wow look when he sees me walking down the aisle.

View Quoted Comment OMG, this is funny!!! 😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣

View Quoted Comment I have seen pictures of the groom being blindfolded, or both of the couple with their backs to each other, or hokding hands around corners and doors. What if goubdid sonetging like this? You still get that raw emotion and amazing photos, but it wont take away from that wow factor of seeing each other for the first time during the procession. You both can get what you want this way.

Yes, I've talked to him about doing this and he's not budging, at all... lol. I'm going to try to talk to him about it some more in a few weeks.