Quarantine Life with Spouse

My husband didn’t shave for like six weeks. But he finally had to shave yesterday because he had a video conference. Thank God :-D

We are both working from home (even though I do still have to go in at times). But, I think the thing that has annoyed me the most is my wife gets to sleep in longer than me lol. Maybe I am more jealous than anything .

I caught myself looking at my SO the other day and got annoyed. Then I had to ask myself am I annoyed at him or annoyed at the situation. He hasn’t done anything wrong and we do normally spend a lot of time together.
So I figured I was more annoyed at the situation because some of our freedom has been taking away. He normally does his stuff and I normally have my routine, so we have been hanging out more than ever.
He was an innocent bystander in my annoyance. Can’t wait for all this to be over. 🙏

I'm working from home and he is still going to work as an essential employee. We work for the same company, but have always had slightly different working hours. I work until 5:00 (or later), but he shows up at home around 4:00, comes in and plays with our super excited dog, and makes a TON of noise. It's not uncommon for me to have to mute or apologize for the noise during a meeting. Coworkers can't help but laugh because they all know him. He's been trying to get better, but it's so hard for him to break the habit of greeting the dog with such gusto. I love him (and our furry girl) so much, but DANG are they loud. Haha!

Hmmm there's a few pet peeves my husband has in general already and it has heightened during the quarantine aha. such as he doesn't turn off the lights when he leaves a room so there are times he leaves it on for hours even though he's not in that room

We’ve both been WFH for almost 2 months and we’ve both had a few breakdowns wishing we had a bigger house or a yard for a bit of an escape! My husband hasn’t done too much to annoy me but I’ve realized he drinks a loooot of coffee and tea during work so the mugs really pile up (and I’m the dishwasher...)

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OMG THIS!!!! He does this all the time 😫! We both had to go in the other day. I had to be in an 7:30am so I basically got dressed in the dark using one lamp to not wake him. He had to go in around 11am. When I got home at 2pm. EVERY SINGLE light was on in the apartment including the one in the walk-in closet. I was like what the hell as I walked through every room and bathroom to turn them off.

We’re both essential workers so it’s mostly business as usual. But due to other employees being out sick we have been doing a lot more 16-18 hour days and when he comes home he leaves his dirty clothes every where. It’s like he takes one article off in every room to annoy me 😫.

Oy. Where to start lol! His allergies have been super rough this year so he's been in bed for like 2 months. I find that irritating as crazy. Mostly because I get to stay up with the kids and he gets to sleep the days away and then wonder why he's not sleeping at night. Well. Allergies and insomnia paired with sleeping all day. Its just irritating for me.

I don't know if I'm annoyed, so much as things have changed so much, so there's just new "normals" to get used to.

1. He usually goes to be SUPER early, because he's usually up at 3:35AM. Since he now isn't working, he's staying up late with me... which makes me stay up even *later*, because I'm used to alone time after work, when he's in bed. (I work until about 11PM... when I'm not furloughed.)

2. He hurt his foot about a week before lockdown, and it's still a little tender. He's ... he's annoyed about it, so I'm annoyed about it. (It's fine. He likely pulled a tendon/muscle, and that just takes a while to heal.)

3. He loves to watch things on his computer. But he has a bad habit of just pressing "play" - and not really thinking about what else is going on. Like, say, something currently on TV, if I might be reading/watching something myself... and we live in a very small apartment.

But, honestly, our relationship hasn't been the problem. Being stuck in here and not having work and missing family and friends... and we're in a hot spot. Some days, all we hear are sirens. Those days are hard.

We've both gotten a bit... testy as we haven't been able to go out and do fun stuff over the weekend. We're both essential employees, so we're both going into work still but the evenings and weekends are a struggle. We also have a 2.5 year old and she leaves him alone and always goes for me to help her or to play and he just lets it happen, never comes in and offers to do it himself so he can sit and play on his computer for hours while I'm always changing diapers, getting food, drawing baths, playing basketball, and never get to sit down and do my own thing. It's been an issue the whole time, but it's really exacerbated now.

Not married yet but lived together for almost 7 years, so I'm going to play...
He's around ALL THE TIME. And watching endless YouTube videos.

Keeps chewing on his nails! Otherwise he's lovely

Overall this time has helped us a bit (doesn’t feel right saying it, considering what everyone else is going through), BUT we’ve definitely spent a lot more time together and talked about how much we have to be grateful for. Just really taking a breathe from our busy lives. Normally this time of year we’re traveling back and forth to PA (from MD) a lottttt to see our families. We miss them, but we know separation is the best right now.


However. My biggest complaint is that she sleeps much later than I, because I’m stilling going into work and she works from home. So she sleeps until 9, but then works until 5-6 when I’m home at 3 and ready to eat dinner and unwind. It’s really a small complaint.

We finally get weekends off together which is nice! Most of the time it’s good (he’s so much happier not being at his job).
Buuuuut... I was seriously irked when he complained about me cooking anything greasy in the morning because it bothers him (I have to get up and work, he sleeps in til whenever, and for some reason bacon/potatoes don’t bother his nose when we cook together). Grrr. 😠

Not married yet but we live together. We are both essential workers and get up really early like 230am early so I try to get a good 4 hours sleep. He can take a 4 hour nap during the day eat dinner, walk dog and come to bed super energized as I'm winding down. He wants to talk/cuddle/watch movies I'm like babes its 9pm we need to be up in a few hours and I'm tired.

He complains and this happens at least 2 nights a week. Mind you we have weekends off and those days aren't the ones he does it on.

Love him dearly but since Covid our sleep schedules have changed and it's annoying.

It's not really annoying, just an adjustment. I'm still going to work and he has been furloughed so our energy levels are different. He'll literally be running circles around me on walks and want to do things when I get home from work, but I'm just so tired.

We're supposed to get married in October but we already live together. Let me tell ya... this has been the real test of love. LOL

1. He's a firefighter so he's still going to work every third day but when he's home, he's off. I'll be working remotely and he watches youtube videos at FULL VOLUME right next to me.

2. His snacking habits drive me nuts. I'll ask what he wants from the store, he'll tell me one or two things and I'll say "you sure that's all you want? Nothing else to snack on??" He'll say no. I'll buy what he requested and then I'll buy a couple things I've been craving. Come home, unload/put up groceries, and go do something else. A couple hours later, I'll go into the same room as him and he has eaten the entire bag of MY SNACK. Not even the thing he requested!!!!

Stay sane, friends.

View Quoted Comment Give him “Honey Do” lists everything week. That’s the same situation as us. I was irked I was still doing most of the cooking but now he’s cleaning like a pro, helping more with cooking and has: put in new bathroom floors, painted the bathroom cabinets, put in recessed kitchen lights. 👏

Married a month tomorrow and making adjustments. He’s retired and I’m an essential employee, still working another two years. He’s a neatnik and I’m comfortable with a little clutter. Sometimes I’ll come home and can’t find anything because he straightens up, but he knows better to throw anything out without my okay. I adore that he’s way more organized than me though, and dinner is ready when I come home. I’m always putting something on the ‘honey do’ list to keep him busy. Oh yes same here with him leaving lights left on all over the house, what’s up with that?? Drives me nuts!!