Question concerning parents boyfriend/girlfriend seating?

They should be seated with their current significant others. I'm sure there will be room next to them for the stepparents.

I would make sure the boyfriend and girlfriend are seated with who they come to the wedding with, his mom & dad.

I would put mom and dad in the front row and have all these other people behind, including the steps. I wouldn't want to put the steps behind, I do think they should be upfront, but I think that may keep the peace a bit. I know, I know, ettiequte. But there is no way I would have these other folks in the front row or processing, it wouldn't happen.

Both of his parents do not want the stepparents to sit in the first row when both of his stepparents help to raise him

This is exactly what we were thinking. The problem is that his parents want them to walk down the aisle with them and they don't want the stepparents involved. They don't want the stepparents who have helped raise him to sit in the front row. And he has never meet his dad's 21 year old girlfriend. And as stated before, they are both still married to the stepparents.

Can you separate the parents and stepparents? Put parents on one side and steps on the other. And I'd sit their SOs in the second row. I know that's not usually how it's done, but in this case, the front row is for honored guests and I don't think some random girlfriend your FH has never met should be there. They can sit separately from them for 20 minutes, it's not like they'll be talking (hopefully).

That's what we wanted to do but both his parents do not want the stepparents to walk or sit in the 1st row. They want the boyfriend and girlfriend to walk and sit by them. My fiancée and his siblings has never met the dad's 21 year old girlfriend and it's already problems with her being invited. One sister already claimed that she won't accept the girlfriend. It's crazy/ I don't agree with their relationship but that is none of my business and who am I to judge. This is why both my fiancée and I stated to put them in the second row to avoid ant drama

I kind of agree that maybe they should not walk down the aisle with the step parents, but I think they should be seated together. I have never met FH's step mother for various reasons I won't get into, but she will still walk down the aisle and sit in the first row next to his mother and stepfather.

How many seats are in each aisle of your ceremony - there may not be room for everyone?!

That's what we stated that we would do to avoid drama. My father is deceased and before he passed him and my mother was married for 37 years. So i can't really relate to how he is feeling and how stressed out he is over this. We was on the same page with what you are saying but mostly everyone on the page do not agree.

Who's paying for all this? I'm super petty and if they aren't paying they will just have to work with the instructions. Are you having a rehearsal? The officiant or your planner can help keep the crazy at bay too, but clearly you will have to tell all the parents what the deal is beforehand. I would not have a 21yr old sitting up with my parents who I have never met. I would be having a convo with my father about it, absolutely not!!! Again, not ettiequte, but it is what it is.

That's what we planned on doing because this is really a tough situation but his parents insist on. or should I say his mom insist on her boyfriend walking and sitting next to her.

I agree. Those who raised you deserve the honor of walking down the aisle, etc., but unfortunately, you do have to let the parents sit wit their SOs.

The reason we don't want them to sit with the girlfriend/boyfriend is because they are insisting that they walk down the aisle with them and don't want the stepparents involved in no way, shape or form. And they don't want the step parents who both are still legally married to do be involved period