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Savvy April 2018

Question concerning parents boyfriend/girlfriend seating?

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LaKisha, on March 14, 2018 at 2:35 PM

My fiancée and I are confused about seating his parents boyfriend and girlfriend? His parents are divorced but remarried but are no longer with his stepparents. They are both legally married to the stepparents but both have significant others? Now his dad is 60 and decided to date this 21 years old and had a baby with her. He and this young girl has been together for a little over a year and my fiancée or his siblings have never met her. His mother's boyfriend is legally married to someone else and has been around for about 8 years. Both parents wants their boyfriend and girlfriend to sit in the 1st row with the parents and walk down the aisle. My fiancée says no and that they can sit in the row behind. We both feel that the stepfather who was in his life and still is for 17 years and his stepmom who was in his life for 21 years and still is should be in the front row with his parents. As I stated previously, His mom is still legally married to the stepdad but has a boyfriend and his dad is legally married to the step mom but he has a girlfriend too, which my fiancée never met. We both think that its a little disrespectful to the sanctity of marriage but to each is own. Where should the boyfriend and girlfriend sit? Please help!

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Savvy April 2018
LaKisha · on March 14, 2018 at 3:15 PM
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I have no room for them in the row with my mother....it's my mother, a rose my father next to her, my grandparents on both sides, and my Uncle and dad's best friend who will escort me down the aisle.....And he loves both his stepparents and like I said he doesn't even know his dad's girlfriend and has never met her
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LaraLouM · on March 14, 2018 at 3:16 PM
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If this was my issue I would probably have the parents walk the isle with their current boyfriend/girlfriend and the parents sit in the front row and the Boyfriend/girlfriend sit in the second row. I would then have the step parents walk the aisle and sit in the first row. This allows it to be acknowledged that his parents are here with biyfriend/girlfriend, and that FH’s step parents are still considered family. This is your And FH’s wedding and those in the front are the ones that mean the most to him. If none of these individuals are financially contributing then you need to tell them how it will be done. If you have a DOC they can enforce this and ensure there are not issues resulting that affect you and FH.
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LaKisha · on March 14, 2018 at 3:18 PM
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It's a very hard decision when the parents keep putting their input...that's why we suggested they could sit in the row behind. Everyone has a say but no one contributed anything to our wedding except my mother and she lets us plan the way we want too.
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Shanelle · on March 14, 2018 at 3:21 PM
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I think his parents should be understand and respecting of his decision. They should be glad that even though divorced, they both picked stepparents who mean so much to him.
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Amanda · on March 14, 2018 at 3:23 PM
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Its your wedding and there for your choice. Do whatever makes you two happy and comfortable. My family is a little complicated too and im sure im going to have some people who have a probelm with where they are being seated. The front row is for the parents. And in my opinion the parents are the ones who raised him. If i were i would put them in the second row if that. Just depends on how close he is to them. In my wedding those closest to me will be seated cloesest to me. You cant make everyone happy and you shouldnt have to. It is about you two amd the love you share. Ifs not about them.
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Savvy April 2018
LaKisha · on March 14, 2018 at 3:25 PM
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No one helped us financially but my mother and my Uncle paid for the flowers. My mom is also doing the rehearsal dinner in which she stated that she will not pay for his dad's gf or mom's bf. My FH does not want either parents gf/bf walking down the aisle because the dad's gf, he does not know and never met her. So he felt that since he doesn't want his dad's 21 year old gf to walk down, to be fair his mom's boyfriend shouldn't walk down. He wanted the ushers to walk his mother down. IDK. Him or his siblings do not know his dad's gf
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LaKisha · on March 14, 2018 at 3:27 PM
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Exactly and we was going to seat them accordingly at the reception.
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Ashley · on March 14, 2018 at 3:27 PM
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I think it depends on how long the rows are. I don't think I'd have the girlfriend/boyfriends take seats from grandparents- so if that's the case, I'd put them a row back. And no way I'd have them walk down the aisle.
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LaKisha · on March 14, 2018 at 3:31 PM
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We are on the same page Ashley. We said in parents, & grandparents and we said put the bf/gf in the row behind. Thank-you!
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LaKisha · on March 14, 2018 at 3:35 PM
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I love your answer.....that's we wanted to do and especially neither one contributed a dime financially. Only my mother. We stated that his parents, stepparents and grandparents should sit in the front row and the bf/gf can sit in the row behind. Plus him or his siblings never met the dad's gf and that problem because of the age difference. He is 60 and she is 21
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LaKisha · on March 14, 2018 at 3:38 PM
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Thank-you everyone for your input. I think we may just have his parents walk down the aisle separately and the step parents walk down as well, and his grandparents and have the gf/bf already seated in the row behind. He does not know his dad's gf and never met her and he is ok with the mom's bf but if you do one for one you have to do the same for the other.
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