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I think since she just got engaged, I think it would be ok to talk to her about the date.

Agree with Hannah. Just talk to her.

I would probably talk to her and tell her how you feel. I don’t think it was very nice of her not to consider your date if she already knew it.

That is a very difficult situation. Has she actually booked a venue yet because while she might have a date in mind that doesn't necessary mean the venue she picks will have that date available? Also, was she aware of the new date you picked at the time of her deciding her date? If she does in fact have a venue and she knew of your new date then I really think the best option is for you, your fiancé, her, her fiancé and your families to sit down and discuss the matter because I agree it isn't fair to you or her or your families that they would be forced to pick one wedding over the other.

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Hi Veronica,

Yes she is my Maid of Honor so she knew the new date when we were forced to change it. She just got engaged last night so she doesn't have a venue yet so I am hoping that will help change the date a little bit.

View Quoted Comment October is a popular month for weddings and with a lot of weddings being pushed back until year because of Covid her chances of finding a venue for a specific date are going to be very slim. Maybe try nicely telling her your concerns so she starts considering other dates as well because like I said before her having her wedding so close to yours really isn't fair to you, her or your mutual guests.

I would talk to her about your concerns of her having her wedding the weekend before yours. She may be thinking in terms of “family will already be here” and thinking she’s being helpful. Talk to her sooner rather than later so she knows how you feel about it before she becomes attached to the date. Good luck.

View Quoted Comment I agree. Talk with her ASAP before she books a venue

I would talk to her before she books a venue

Since she doesn't have a venue yet, definitely talk to her about moving her date. Even if she moves it by a month or two, that should help with some logistical things.


You said your parents wouldn't be able to afford attire for both, and I'm assuming you meant bridesmaids dresses for your younger sisters as opposed to attire for themselves. If you did mean they'll have trouble paying for their own clothes, just let them wear the same thing to both, possibly clothes they already own. If you meant they could only buy one bridesmaid's dress for each sister, maybe you and your sister could each buy a dress for one of them to make it easier on your parents.

She should definitely change the date. I have a covid bride sister and were both going back on forth on dates not too close to each others when we were both changing ours.

Definitely talk to her about the date. She should be understanding as you had to postpone because of COVID.

Oh my goodness you are handling this way better than I would have lol. In my opinion, family members who are very close in relation who will likely have the same guest list should put at least a month between weddings. Yes, you get one day for your wedding but it is common courtesy to give someone a bit of space surrounding their wedding day. If she’s not set in stone yet, talk to her about it now before she books

Don't say anything. She just got engaged, she's just trying to rile you up or start a competition. If you say something, she'll likely turn it into you "making her change her date". Listen, my sister pulled the same thing when I was engaged (she had already been engaged 2 years with no plans to get married) and as soon as I announced my date, she announced hers a week before. Needless to say, it didn't work out planning-wise. Plus, every member of my family was like - your sister just announced she is getting married then. She's the only one who looks bad in this situation and will likely end up changing her plan.