Questioning the importance of decor

I kind of know that 90% of the things I am doing around decor, flowers, aesthetics, etc. I am doing for myself/FH. You're right, most guests won't notice and/or care, so as long as you acknowledge that you're doing it mostly for yourself, then your expectations will be appropriate and you can make decisions accordingly. Guests care about food and drinks, Lol.

I think it depends on which kind of decor! We went all out on our chuppah decor, since our chuppah was in literally every single photo from the ceremony. However, centerpieces are something that most guests don't remember. If there's a particular area where you know a majority of your photos will take place (i.e. an arch), then I would focus on that and take it easy on the other decor that the guests probably won't remember or care about

I've honestly never been to a wedding where I've noticed the decor beyond "can I see the person over this centerpiece?!" and I consider myself a pretty observant person.

We purposefully chose a venue with gorgeous and diverse ceremony, cocktail hour and reception spaces so that decor was unnecessary and honestly would have been clutter. Our venue had unfussy linens that were exactly our style, and the florals I wanted were also minimal in style (palm plants scattered throughout the reception space, clear hurricane vases with simple palm leaves for centerpieces).