I am not yet engaged, but my boyfriend and I have encroached more into the subject of marriage, and fairly quickly at that. We have set the prospective timeline as within a year of making it official (engagement), but ultimately set it at "when we both are ready." It might seem early for some to be asking these questions but, I am the type that likes to be very prepared. I also know that if my SO was not seriously considering marriage we wouldn't be talking about it to the degree that we have.
What are some good conversations to have about married life? What are some things that we should consider? We've talked about:
-Finances. Having one joint bank account for bills/groceries and keeping spending accounts separate.-Savings. We plan to save 6 months of emergency expenses between the both of us according to a prospective budget.-Children. How we would raise them, discipline them, teach them responsibility.-Family. How much involvement our family should have in our marital affairs.-Working. Both concluded we would work.-Relationships outside of our own. Letting our SO know who we are out with and where out of respect for each other and in case of an emergency.-Communication and how we think we could improve.-What we expect out of free time alone and how much.-What we expect out of time together and how much.-What our personal goals are and what our goals are as a couple.-Living together before marriage, which we decided would not happen due to various reasons.-Whither or not they are open to premarital counceling to address any potential problem areas, and/or counciling in marriage if we need a litte help after we've said 'I do'.
There may be more, but that's what I remember off the top of my head. Are we on a good path to legitimately being ready for married life? I've been googling questions to ask, but sometimes it's better to have questions based on the actual experiences of others.