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Grace
Savvy June 2024

Questions -- Two Stage Wedding

Grace, on June 27, 2024 at 12:57 PM Posted in Married Life 0 6
To those of you who are married,

I want some advice, my other half and I had a situation crop up where we can’t do the legal version yet, we do view each other as married, his family and my family does to. They understand that we’re going to do the legal stuff later this year. Is it normal for some couples to do this because things arise prior to the wedding itself?
And if you did this, would you also wear your wedding dress again to do the legal one?
We had our ceremony where we committed our lives to each other this past Saturday and our rings on our left hand.
Any advice or understanding would be great!

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Latest activity by Grace, on June 27, 2024 at 5:55 PM
  • Cece
    Rockstar October 2023
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    It was unplanned, but we ended up doing this! We had a destination wedding with our friends and family.... and the officiant didn't show up! So we ended up having our "wedding", but flew home legally unmarried. We didn't want to just walk into the courthouse and sign papers unceremoniously, since technically that would be we were legally wed; we wanted it to be special. So we picked a day that was special to us, and went to the courthouse. I didn't want to wear my same dress again, so I ended up getting a bridal skirt and sweater. It was less formal than my dress (so felt more fitting for the courthouse), and tbh, I loved it even more than my original dresses!! My (now) husband wore a suit and I carried a bouquet. We exchanged rings. We had a photographer. It was honestly such an amazing experience! It was just the 2 of us, so it was really intimate and romantic (which you don't get with a traditional wedding with guests). It also provided me the opportunity to wear my mom's veil (which didn't work with my original dress), which I am SO thankful for! Afterward, hubby and I had dinner at the restaurant we went to on our first date. We had a blast at our destination wedding, but hubby and I are both so incredibly thankful we ended up having the courthouse ceremony. And when I think about the day we got married, I don't even think about the destination wedding... my mind goes immediately to the sweet, meaningful courthouse ceremony. My advice would be to make it special and memorable! Do all the things you want - you don't need to "downgrade" it just because you've already had a symbolic wedding.

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  • Grace
    Savvy June 2024
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    Thank you so much for the reply and understanding because I felt a little alone on this, We plan on doing the legal one between August up to October. Our officiant showed up the day before the big hoorah. My other half’s side knew about what happened for us to not do the legal stuff yet, which they all understood and are fine with we all agreed to continue with the big hoorah. However which day do you count as tying the knot? The legal one or the non-legal one?
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  • Michael
    Rockstar October 2023
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    I see the wedding you had as a proper one that was witnessed by family and friends. But the one for the state's interest can be another opportunity to get dressed up again and celebrate.

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  • Grace
    Savvy June 2024
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    Thank you so much for the reply! I wonder what the weather will be when my other half and I get it legally done. If its nice out weather wise, I might pull the dress I wore out sgain, otherwise I typically go for shorts, t-shirt, and sandals or sneakers with a sweatshirt. Also, curious, if I got hubby/wife sweatshirts what day would I put on them? The june wedding date or new date?
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  • Cece
    Rockstar October 2023
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    The day you make it legal is the day you get married. However, that doesn’t mean you can’t celebrate both dates!
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  • Grace
    Savvy June 2024
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    Ok, thank you so much!
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