Random Roles for 16 year old Niece?

Would she be interested in doing some sort of speech or toast at the reception? Or you could have her be in charge of the rings and bring them up when it's time. Just so she has some special part of the ceremony. Or you could even just have her walk down the aisle, either alone or with someone, just so she is in it, she doesn't have to be a bridesmaid to do that. Those are the best ideas I've got. I hope this helps!

Not sure what settings you have but I've been a candle lighter in church settings several times, so that's an option.

Honestly I would just let her know as much as you'd like her to be involved in the ceremony there's just not anywhere you can work her in that's appropriate. No one really enjoys being the guest book attendant, so I'd skip that too.

I did some digging around and I saw the idea of just letting her walk (like the parents/grandparents would do) and I think that might be good enough. She can assist my wedding coordinator also and I those two things would be enough to make her feel included.

You could have her be an usher - to greet and help people find seats as needed. You could get her a special flower corsage to wear. Then she could relax and enjoy the wedding once it starts!

Outside of being a guest which is a huge honor, I’ve seen guestbook attendant/greeter and ushers.

View Quoted Comment Please do not make her work because she will not be able to enjoy herself with the rest of the guests.

Get her a corsage and have her process in with your other important family members (parents or grandparents typically) and sit with them in the front row. I think that would be more than enough to make her feel special but not have to do a made up job like guest book or work like your DOC.

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I would avoid having her assist your wedding coordinator, or having her do anything else that feels more like a job than an honor. I like your suggestion of just having her walk with the rest of the wedding party. It ensures that she's included in the actual ceremony, but she also doesn't have to take part in some sort of job like an usher or guest book attendant.

She wouldn't assist the coordinator for the whole thing, just leading up to it and helping direct people to their seats. Once the ceremony begins she can just do what she wants.

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I get what you're saying, but I still don't think that's a great idea. Your coordinator is hired to be your coordinator, and you niece shouldn't be assisting them.

Having her as an usher is fine if that's what you want her to do, and have her walk in with the bridal party, but I personally don't think she should be assisting the coordinator.

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My wedding coordinator is a family friend that is volunteering for free (though I will be giving her a donation). My wedding coordinator offered this role to my niece.

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At the end of the day, you do what you want to do. We're all just here to give advice and answer your questions.

If you ask your niece about it and she's all for helping, then that's fine! I was just saying that she doesn't have to do some sort of job to feel included.

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Definitely. Thanks for taking the time to write your input.

I’m having my 15 year old niece help me with my dress (straightening the train before walking down the aisle; learning how to bustle it). Other young members of the family will be greeters/ushers.