Background
My husband and I were married in a semi-private DW in June. We had already planned a vacation with my family a year prior, so we decided it would be fun/special to get married while we were there. My parents, grandmother, and a few close family friends attended, as they were on the trip as well.
Hubby was completely on board with this until speaking to his mother. When she found out, she completely freaked out on me, crying hysterically, and saying I was selfish. She even un-friended me on Facebook. We had words because I did not like her making my husband feel like he was in the wrong and putting him down. Though he felt stuck in the middle, he defended me and our decision. We even tried to get her on the trip as well, but it did not work because it was so last minute. She also refused to FaceTime in because she said it wouldn't be the same.
As a compromise, hubby and I decided to have another ceremony at home in October so that all of both families could be there. MIL was still not satisfied with this, but eventually came around since there was nothing she could do. It took a while, but she apologized to me and "welcomed" me into the family (I say this loosely because her behavior does not match her words). We are cordial, but I am still not 100% comfortable with her because the relationship is just awkward now.
Present Day
Fast forward to now, approximately two weeks out from my wedding. I am feeling very resentful towards his mom because she has not helped us with the wedding at all, monetarily or otherwise. Don't get me wrong, I know we are NOT entitled to help from anyone as we are grown, working adults, I get it. However, my family has contributed a LOT to a wedding that they didn't necessarily want to have in the first place and it frustrates me!
I am an only child and hubby is the youngest of three boys. His mother works for a church, so he says she has limited income, but every time we visit, she is showing us all of the new things she has purchased for herself (literally bags and bags of stuff). She also recently told us about a trip to Vegas that she is planning. His parents are divorced, and his dad has actually helped us a little, which I am grateful for. I just feel like his mom is a needy, manipulative person and he does not see it. She practically guilt-tripped us into having this wedding, but has had no part in it whatsoever other than demanding who we need to invite.
Hubby is a super nice guy and will do anything for his mom, but sometimes I feel like he needs to stand up to her more. He drops everything to pay bills for her whenever she asks because "she doesn't know how to go online and do it herself." He has driven 2 hours one way to pick her up and bring her to visit us because "her car won't make it that far" or because "she doesn't feel comfortable driving at night." Mind you, she is not an elderly woman (early 50s), so I feel like a lot of it is just her being dramatic and using him because he is the baby and can't/won't say no. His other brothers are significantly older, married, and living in the same city as her. We live 2 hours away and she still only comes to him with her "problems."
Now What?
Since we are so close to the wedding, I realize I need to let a lot of the past issues go, but I can't help feeling resentful and distant from my MIL. The frustrations are starting to affect my hubby and I and that is the last thing I want. Am I being crazy/harsh/insensitive? What should I do?