Rant Sesh: Makeup and Mothers

TLDR- showed mom photos from makeup trial. Mom completely hates it and starts using toxic filipino language to say things like “you look like you’re on menopause”, “on a scale of 1-10 that’s the worst makeup I’ve ever seen” and “i’ll speak on behalf of (fiancé’s name) and say you’ll scare him away with that look”. Now i’m pissed lol


STORY TIMESo I had my first makeup & hair trial yesterday. Long story short but we went for a bolder glam look because I was curious about what that would look like on me. My artist knew I don’t wear makeup often and when I do, I wear light and minimal coverage. But she and I agreed we could experiment and see if I would prefer a bolder look today. She reminded me that I could change my look if I end up not liking the one provided at the trial.
She was phenomenal, professional, and very enjoyable to work with. When we finished, I quickly realized bold was NOT the right choice for me. But I decided to snap a few selfies and send it to my mom to look at since she wanted to see them. But the moment she sees them, all she’s filled with is critique (which is common among filipinos lol). Even after I explain the situation and why my makeup looks the way it does she says “ask her to do it again until she perfects it” LIKE HELLO MOM MAKEUP TRIALS ARE $150+ Per session in LA.
Now I’m pissed because while I completely agree with the suggestions and issues she has with the look... 1) she had the audacity to speak for my fiancé who she BARELY knows and 2) there was no positive or constructive feedback from her and when I confronted her about it, she reasons that she’s just telling it to me straight and not sugar-coating it. But tbh there’s no point in being “straight-up” if what you’re trying to say is falling on deaf ears. There’s a way to give constructive feedback while getting your point across in a loving way. But if you straight up tear someone apart like that and then expect them to listen and follow-thru with your suggestions after.... like LOL HELLO??? Thank you, next.
Anyway, I’m currently not speaking to her bc I need to cool off. But I’m wondering if I’m just being my overly sensitive millennial self tryna validate my feelings ??? Like granted its partly my fault since I basically asked for her opinion so I should have seen it coming lol 🙂
Anyway, sorry I just needed to get this off my chest so I can move forward with wedding planning. Thanks for reading and hope you’re having a less stressful time than me!