Rant: unsolicited "advice" and comments

View Quoted Comment I joke all the time that it’s for the tax break. On paper it helps me but hurts hI’m. Collectively might save us a few bucks. But funny to joke about. Weird for someone else to think about.

View Quoted Comment OMG I GET THIS TOO!! We got engaged in October and for the first 4 months (we got engaged 11 months to our wedding day!) all anyone said was “you have so much time, calm down” and now we’re 6 months out from our wedding day and it’s all, “omg you don’t have a dress yet?!?!”

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Best believe they will still come for the free food, and a good time. LOL I've heard this too.

Wow, these responses have me rolling. I think we've all heard pretty much the same lines.

I think my favorite so far has been "I don't believe in marriage" and to me, that's completely a personal opinion, like I don't care if you believe in it, I DO.

now kindly SIT DOWN AND DON'T BE MAD when you DON'T GET AN INVITE

My FH's sister (yes his sister) said to me: "Well I guess you know what you are getting yourself into!" Like WTF?

"What? No music? You HAVE TO HAVE MUSIC!" No actually we don't. The worst was "I bet you hope you are not making another mistake." That one really hurt (and I told the person so) as my two kids came from that "mistake" and they are far from errors. Very far. I would never call my first marriage a mistake. Ever.

People suggesting we just elope as "it so much cheaper" is met with "Why would we want to be cheap on this special day?"

"That's how old I was at my first wedding.... good luck with that" from a woman who I worked with within 5 minutes of meeting me.
Basically everything I could ever hear about divorce as well.
Or.... my favorite
"are you losing weight for the wedding?" Or "you've got a dress to fit into!" It makes me feel horrible about myself

View Quoted Comment I knew I wasn’t alone! I agree it’s really upsetting! I’ve cried a bunch about it already. I mentioned to my bm I really want a sit down dinner, and her reply was “Why? Just get a food truck it’s easier.” But the easy/cheap way isn’t always the best way for me and my FH. I feel like if we’d gotten married 3 years ago everyone would be gushing over my choices in flowers and dress shopping, but now it’s just a huge eye roll and another obligation in everyone’s busy schedules. It definitely has made me stop telling people about my planning, too. But I *know* that once the wedding day comes, all these people who tell me it’s not worth doing things (including the FH!) will look around and be like “this wedding was perfect for you two”.

Wait til you have kids

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No kidding - free advice will be flowing!!!! It will make you yearn for the days of unwanted wedding advice.

View Quoted Comment Omg! The last one about not everyone going. I HATE that. My family keeps pressuring me to invite all my distant cousins.

View Quoted Comment There’s nothing wrong with planning early! Mine is in May 2019 and I already have the major things pretty much locked in! Better to be safe than sorry 😂

View Quoted Comment My mother in law to be suggested to my fiancé and not me that we have appetizers only and not a full meal. That it would save us a lot of money, but honestly I disagree. We are already getting a great deal on the food $9/pp and on top of that they are offering a lot with that service. I don’t understand her logic when his family isn’t giving any money for the wedding.

View Quoted Comment ...having a child you have to raise together forever is an insane sounding way to "test" a relationship. Just wow.

View Quoted Comment "Oh thanks, Aristotle,..." Your penchant for words is out of this world.

I get all the time : "this is why we just went to the JOP and got it over with" thats a waste of money to feed all those ppl... ok I know but its what I want. I want the celebration!

I definitely understand!

"Well, I only spent $X on my wedding!" Congratulations, that's not helpful.

I get snarky comments on my "long" engagement (18 months), how we've could have gotten married already if we choose a VFW and did a potluck ( to each their own but no thank you). How life would be easier if I married someone within my own race (ummm...ok?), and constant critique of the guest list. Ugh!!

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Hahahaha! I love this! Why is it now every time you don't follow someone's advice, or just know what you are looking for already, you are labeled a "bridezilla"?!?!? I am trying to plan something simple, fun and non-traditional, and every time I'm not chomping at the bit over some VERY traditional idea or something that is "usually done this way", I get told - "ok, well, maybe just think about it... bridezilla..."

Like, NO, I already thought about it, and NO I don't want to do it. Why does that make me a bridezilla? Opinionated, maybe. A monster? I don't think so...

This isn't advice, but people ask me every detail "what are the colors? Where will it be? Can I see a picture of your dress?" .... no you're invited you can see it October 19th

I had someone tell me that flower girls and ring bearers are a “waste of time and more than likely will throw a tantrum and ruin the wedding.” Um first of all we have chosen older kids not toddler so the chance of them losing it is decreased some. Second of all a kid throwing a tantrum will NOT ruin the wedding lol it would be an inconvenience in the grand scheme of the ceremony but it certainly would not •ruin• everything lol can you imagine? What do they think I’d do? See the kid throw a tantrum and throw my hands in the air and say that’s it we’re not getting married bc THAT kid sucks? 😂 people I tell you 🙄