Rant: unsolicited "advice" and comments

This is my second marriage, FH’s first. My first wedding was at a courthouse, and I wasn’t allowed to tell anyone until the day of when I posted it on Facebook. So the only people there were parents and 1 sibling each. FH knows that, and he knew I didn’t care how we get married, as long as we get married. But he said he’d like to have a real wedding, and wants it to be the best day of our lives. Well first people started giving us crap advice for that, like telling us to just do it in the backyard or courthouse so we don’t waste our money. Then when I got my dress, FH’s great aunt asked why I needed a wedding dress since I’ve already been married before. Ummm because the last time I wore a purple sweater dress and this time I want to wear a real dress? We’ve been told to skip the honeymoon and just stay home to save money. Oh and I found out one of my bridesmaids was telling our coworkers that I’m keeping my dress at my moms so it doesn’t smell like a dog! Ummm, actually I’m keeping it there so FH doesn’t go looking for it 😂 And my very favorite, all the advice We’ve been getting about how we shouldn’t get 2 puppies as our wedding gift. Because they are expensive and messy and destructive. I figure next time someone says that I’m going to suggest that their kid is too expensive and maybe they should just get rid of them. Lol. People are just ridiculous and I just try to ignore them at this point.

I know this is an older post but I just have to vent about unsolicited advice and comments! We got engaged on July 4, 2018. A month later we booked our venue for November 16, 2019. One person was like “Wow, you set a date ALREADY?” Yeah...we want to get married. “Why are you waiting so long?” We want to have a nice wedding in the fall. “You’re having how many bridesmaids?” FH has 4 sisters and 2 teenage nieces. Family only wedding party. “I only had one.” Good for you. I had to walk away from her.
I had to distance myself from a close friend because she was just absolutely ridiculous. It wasn’t just her advice but also her tone. She was SO condescending and it really made me want to cancel everything and elope without telling anyone. We were discussing sit down dinner vs buffett. We’re going with a buffett and she got so close to my face and was like “OMG, when you give the hall your final head count make sure you ROOOUNNNDDD DOWWWWWN!!!!” Complete with hand gestures to show me what round down means because, obviously, I’m to stupid to figure it out. I was done with her after that. A few months later my FH was painting her house and she asked why I’ve been distant. He told her I’ve been really stressed out with people telling me what to do without asking and I had to just be alone. Her husband has told her not to ask me about my wedding planning. So far so good but OMG. I definitely would have turned into a Bridezilla if she ended up being a bridesmaid!

View Quoted Comment Yes! Hahah. I’ve heard the same. I just want to keep it as stress free as possible.

"Don't start planning now, You have so much time" (Mhm, NO! If i dont start planning now, I wont get anything done, I also hate planning last minute)

"You need to get married in a church" (I dont "need" to do anything your way, just because im getting married outside doesn't mean my marriage dont count)

"You need to invite this person, and this person" ( No, i dont know these people and I dont want them there)

“Wedding reception pays for itself “ 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️ When my side of the family has a wedding it’s customary for the gets to gift money and with the last 3 wedding that my dad threw for my sister he paid for most of the reception out of that. I wonder to this day if he understands that that’s not what the monetary gifts were for🤦🏻‍♀️🙄🤦🏻‍♀️😆
Now me and my FH are older than my sisters were and this is my second relationship so we are paying for the wedding ourselves and whenever I have a convo with my parents about the guest list I have to remind them that we are trying to keep it small cuz we are on a budget but dad always has to tell me “ Invite more people it pays for itself “ ... like dude NO!

Or “why are you having a wedding, didn’t you just get married in the court house?”🙄