Rant.

Same feelings. You are not alone. We were supposed to be May 16th and now it seems like no one will even entertain the idea of our wedding. I think we're just eloping and calling it good--I agree with you it is too stressful and too saddening.

Omg girl I’m so sorry! That is awful having to reschedule twice I can’t imagine the stress. This happened some friends of mine and they just ended up postponing to 2021 (they were March originally, then July and now “sometime next year”). You are definitely not alone!


Personally, my FH and I are likely going to postpone our Oct 2020 wedding to October 2021 after a few very honest conversations with our families and wedding planner that we had last week. I have essentially gone through every stage of grief: denial, bargaining, depression. Hopefully I’ll make it to acceptance soon lol!
I totally understand wanting to give up. But don’t do it! You’ve made it so far. A wedding in summer of 2021 is better then no wedding at all. We are considering eloping this year and having another ceremony and big celebration next year. That is a good option if you are just ready to be married.

View Quoted Comment Also strongly considering postponing our Oct wedding to October 2021 for the same reasons you mentioned. I was in total denial up until recently, and kept trying to convince myself things would be ok by then but the reality is they likely won’t

I completely understand how you feel. We were supposed to get married on 4/18/20 and had to postpone. Our wedding was postponed until 10/31/20, Halloween! As much as I love Halloween and was grateful we were still able to get a Saturday in 2020, as time marches on, I started to get nervous again as numbers are spiking and there’s still so much uncertainty, we decided to postpone one more time and we are now getting married on March 6th, 2021. We were lucky enough they had that Saturday open and since we have a larger sized wedding (180) people, we wanted everyone to feel safe and be able to attend. If plan C is what will make you feel better, go with it. Here’s hoping we’re all out of the woods soon and able to go forward with all our plans.

View Quoted Comment It’s extremely easy to be in “bridal denial” (and even harder to admit it) because we want so badly for our weddings to go off without a major hitch. My engagement was already long 21 months long and now it’s increasing to 33 months. So of course I wanted walk down the aisle this October. But just because restaurants and barbershops and venues are opening with guidelines, it’s all still trial and error. We’ve really only been dealing with this pandemic for 3-4 months and it’s still very new. We’re shooting for October 2021, when things won’t be so new and hopefully life is a little better off.

I feel the exact same way. We couldn't go to the courthouse, it's been closed. And we supposed to got married this April and had to reschedule to next year in September, if this get reschedule again. I'm not going to get married, money and time spent, can't deal

Omg I totally relate to this! Been engaged since 2017 thinking 2020 will be our year! Already had to move our June wedding to August and now at risk of moving it again! It’s so frustrating to keep rescheduling bridal showers and pushing off my bachelorette. It just doesn’t feel normal, and I am scared if I move it I’ll just do this again next year!

View Quoted Comment Oh wow. I have no idea what their reopening plan will be but maybe you can plan something else? I know it stinks when you had your heart set on one place but there are a lot of countries reopening!

I feel this. So hard. I'm so sorry you're going through this, don't forget to let yourself feel these feelings. I'm rescheduling mine from a 75 person wedding in Sept to a super small 9 person ceremony in Nov, and it sucks so much, I can't imagine what it must feel like to have to reschedule TWICE. Remember you are loved and you and your FH are the reason for the celebration.

I’m sorry this is affecting your big day. They reality of it is whoever advised you to move to August was in the wrong because there’s no way something of this magnitude just goes away in two months. Even moving weddings to spring 2021 is iffy at this point. You are not alone and I know it’s easier to think poor me and compare your wedding to past and future ones but unfortunately none of us saw this coming and it’s affecting all of us. I would move it again unless your wedding is under 50 and outside.

Feel free to rant (better out than in)! I can empathize with how you feel, even though I'm not planning a 2020 wedding so I haven't had to postpone/cancel, which I can imagine is extremely difficult.

We did the legal part a few years ago, as I'm from the US and he's from the UK, where we live, so we needed to for visa reasons. We both knew we wanted to marry one another, we just didn't want to get married when we did, if that makes sense. But, our hand was kind of forced by restrictions. So, we always planned that when the time felt right, he would propose as normal, and we would have a wedding including a ceremony (I've never changed my name and we didn't exchange rings etc).

He proposed this past December and honestly it was still a huge surprise/emotional. I've so loved planning our wedding, because selfishly I really think we deserve it! We've been together for 7.5 years and had so many hurdles.

I've been planning for a 2022 wedding in the US, but with Covid, so much has been skewed. I don't know if I'll be able to get home this year to visit venues, and feel like everything is on hold until I can do that. I want to get save the dates out early next year so people travelling from the UK have enough lead time, but if I can't get home anytime soon, who knows! Watching the news is so stressful because it feels like things are going backwards sometimes, so I'm like... will we even be able to travel by 2022?!

I know there are solutions (virtual tours, etc) but anyway, I'm just here to say yes, it's extremely frustrating. But, I'm doing all I can to stay positive/excited about things, and I know that even if you have to postpone again, you'll have an amazing day, however/whatever you plan to do!

I totally get it, and ranting here is probably the best since many are going through the same thing. My cousin’s was rescheduled from May to August and yes cases have spiked here, but they’re set with going through. They’ve changed their food plan, and it’s just on family property and was going to be a small event anyway, so I’m pretty sure they’re going through with it no matter what this time.
My date has been October from the start, and anytime someone says something about COVID, I’ve just said that we’re getting married that day no matter what. If I have to keep decorations in storage until I can replan a celebration with everyone then so be it.

Your feelings are so valid!! I completely understand how you feel! Sending you so much love and good vibes. I say, just move forward with your rescheduled date, and whoever feels comfortable coming will come.

I’m so sorry you’re having to go through this, you’re definitely not alone. We were supposed to get married in May as well and postponed our wedding to the end of Sept. For now we’re still moving forward unless told otherwise by venue or government. It was completely devastating to postpone the first time, and I couldn’t imagine doing it again. All the time, money, effort felt like it was for nothing. (In reality I know what really matters is the love and marriage, not just the “wedding”, but it’s still so heartbreaking.) And I’m the same way, where I keep thinking about all the other weddings we’ve attended in the past that were beautiful and exciting and joyful and went off without a hitch. It’s hard not to feel sad and bitter, thinking “why couldn’t we have that? Is that too much to ask? Should we have just crunched our timing and gotten married in 2019?”. It’s just... ugh, so many thoughts and emotions.
Sorry to rant on your post, but I guess all of us 2020 brides need to vent every now and then, haha! Your feelings are absolutely valid and you are not alone. I hope your day is beautiful regardless and I’m sure whatever decision you make things will work out in the end!

Rant all u want! I would be doubly pissed if I had to reschedule AGAIN. Can you possibly go smaller and maybe outdoors??

I know this is not the answer you’re looking for but the only reason I’m not angry with the situation is because I know so many people lost their lives to this virus. Of course it is terrible that all these weddings were turned upside down and we are the unlucky bunch that had to be getting married this year but as corny as it is, at least we have our health. It would be worse to lose a loved one than to have to postpone a wedding. I’m not religious but I ask God for answers sometimes.

Oh girl, I am so so sorry. It's okay to rant and feel that way. It's such a sad time and the added stress to an already stressful event is tough. I'm still moving forward with my 10/3/2020 date. Hopefully, my venue will not close down by that time. The anxiety is real but it's good to vent and process all of your feelings so you can re-focus and move forward with whatever happens.

I think if it is too heartbreaking to postpone again, I'd say have it but plan to shorten your guest list if your state mandates it.

I just wanted to let you know that I totally understand what you're saying. I've had the same feelings. In fact I've been very honest on this platform from the very beginning that people should have been postponing their large gatherings so that we can all get back to a better place sooner to have our own weddings... but people here got very angry because they felt that it's whomever's wedding and it's "their decision and no one else." I mean, true but that's pretty selfish for the rest of society. So here we are. Not that I blame this only on people not distancing themselves, but I do feel that's a large part of why this is continuing to get out of control. Every time I read that it's "your decision" I feel like that's a middle finger to everyone else who is waiting patiently and trying to get through this quickly so they can also have their big day. At the end though, it's totally normal to have the thoughts about what if I had the wedding another year, etc. I've been up and down that thought process for months. We are planning on having a child first now..I think? And then we'll get married in 2022...? I don't even know for sure. If I was 14 years younger, no problem, but not all of us have that kind of time. You will make it through though! Here we are, and I think let's just face it with a sigh of relief and acceptance...smile, and then get happy. xoxo

Firstly, the biggest hugs to you and I totally sympathize with you feelings. I feel the same way and my wedding isn't until 2022 but the prospect of canceling or not having it all together is pretty scary. I would just say take it one day at a time and if your fiance has any valid ideas about a plan C maybe he can take the reigns and you supervise( just so you don't feel overwhelmed with grief,etc).

April date - family conflict, May date family conflict, June 27th Covid, August 8 Covid, September 24th Covid venue closed down... Now microwedding September 28th... Renewal June 2021....


I feel this in my soul.