Rant/advice for Wedding Planning Experience So Far

I'm sorry you're sad. My advice is to look at the things that are important to you and decide if you want change or leave things as is. You don't want to wear glasses? You have to go to the optometrist for a prescription annually anyway, ask for a prescription to contacts and try them out. You want more friends? Make some. Join a club where you'll meet people who have similar interests or ask a coworker to have lunch. Things don't have to remain they are if you're not happy. You have ultimate control over your life.

I'm sorry you're gong throught this.

The fact no one cares according to you, doesn't mean they don't.

They are happy and excited for you but they may want to "leave you alone", let you plan the way you want to plan it and avoid giving you unsollicited suggestions: " you should do this, but don't do that." or " for my wedding I did this or that".

I understand why you want a bachelorette but it's just a pre-wedding party. It's not as important as the wedding. And you can still have an "unofficial" bachelorette with whoever you want or a joint bachelor-bachelorette (it's trendy).

However, it sounds like your FH isn't doing any planning stuff at all... but he should do more than supporting you: Since it's also his wedding he absolutely should help you plan ( unless I'm wrong and he's planning it with you?)

I'm sorry you're so sad during what should be an exciting time! The truth is wedding planning is not glamorous or all fun like in the movies, a lot of it is just organizing and trying to make the best out of situations.

I do feel like some of the things you're sad about are sort of self inflicted though...just because you weren't in your friend's bridal party doesn't mean she can't be in yours! If bridal parties were only reciprocal everyone would have 20 people as they are obligated to continually add each other to the bridal parties. In reality maybe she had sisters or older friendships and a limited number of spots. You're also sad about only your mom coming to your dress appointment but who else did you invite? Do you have any sisters, female cousins, aunts, grandparents etc that could have been invited to come and live local? People feel excited when they feel like you want them there....if there are people you would have wanted at the dress fitting appointment, maybe those are people you could/should ask to be bridesmaids?

And then the glasses are another issue...you don't seem to like the idea of wearing them, but then also make a lot of excuses....like you've never worn contacts ok, but you have plenty of time to at least try them out and see if you can get used to them. You haven't even really given them a chance. Then the reason for THAT is you don't like going to the eye doctor...ok, but then that's the choice you're making that going to the eye doctor is worse than just wearing the glasses at the wedding. IDK it just seems a bit like you're wallowing rather than actively trying to make solutions.

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I totally agree with everything you said. It may sound harsh, but an outside perspective might help OP look at some of the positives instead of getting bogged down by everything she's finding to be so negative.