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Vanessa, on August 9, 2018 at 12:06 PM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 13
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My good friend who is a reader in my wedding has the direction of wearing whatever she’d like to the wedding, just like a regular guest and not a bridesmaid. She messaged me yesterday asking if this dress was appropriate. To be honest, I was annoyed and frustrated that she’d even have to burden me with the question/ decision. Of course this dress is inappropriate, right?!? To add to it— my dress is shiny blush/champagne color and has a similar gathered effect at the side of the waist. I mean, come on! I told her nicely I didn’t think it was appropriate as it was too close to my dress and she agreed. But why even ask me?

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Latest activity by Carol, on August 9, 2018 at 12:37 PM
  • Carol
    Super April 2024
    Carol ·
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    I mean you said wear anything like a guest- whats the attire? Semi formal? Looks like she just got it on clearance and thought of your wedding. At least shes not just telling you shes wearing it and thats that!
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    Dedicated April 2019
    Futuremrsgrill ·
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    If I didn’t know what your dress looked like and I was a guest I would think this dress was appropriate for a wedding as long as it isn’t like a black tie event. Good thing she annoyed you by asking instead of just wearing it without asking like I would of.
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    Savvy August 2018
    Vanessa ·
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    You think this is fine to wear as a guest? I think it's too light of a color.... seemed obvious to me but perhaps I'm wrong. Add to that, it's very similar to the color and style of my wedding dress that she's seen. When I said wear anything... I didn't mean a dress that looked like mine as the bride. But yeah, the wedding attire in general is semi- formal or even a little more casual than semi-formal.


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  • Mcskipper
    Master July 2018
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    Seriously, SAME. Good of her to have asked as she must’ve known you’d have an opinion. On the surface, to me there is absolutely nothing inappropriate about this dress. I wouldn’t have even questioned it unless as I was worried about the sparkle level. I don’t understand why you seem so bothered when she asked when really it seems like you should be glad she asked since you have such a strong feeling against it ?!
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  • Going to the chapel
    Master July 2017
    Going to the chapel ·
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    That dress is fine. No one will mistake her for the bride.

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    Champion May 2016
    OG Kathryn ·
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    I don't see whats wrong with it. Do you have a picture of your dress? has she seen it?

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    Savvy August 2018
    Vanessa ·
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    I'm bothered because I feel she should have already known it isn't an appropriate dress since it's too similar to my wedding dress. I pretty much already stated that up above...


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  • Carol
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    Carol ·
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    Mine is similar attire- Although I cant relate to the part of it being similar to my wedding gown. Perhaps I just think its okay because my bridesmaids are in champagne colors- and I am in a pure ivory a-line dress. I guess it would bother me if its similar to my dress if I had a sheath style as well. As long as shes not wearing it! I would see why it would bother you for her to ask if she knows its similar to yours.

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  • Carol
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    Alot of people tend to form the opinion that wearing a white base or light colors are acceptable to a wedding now-a-days. They say everyone will know who the bride is. Which I can see why people think its okay based off of that thought. I personally avoid white/ivory or even a light champagne. I would wear this to a fancier wedding though.

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    Savvy August 2018
    Vanessa ·
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    Well, you ladies are giving me a different perspective. I personally think it's too light for any wedding guest but I can see I'm in the minority. I definitely think in this situation her choice was wrong because it's too close to my dress, which she had seen months prior to buying this. Thanks for all your opinions!

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    Savvy August 2018
    Vanessa ·
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    Thanks for your input! Mine is form fitting and same cut / shape except with a sweetheart neckline. My wedding is not fancy as all, laid back at a community center. I just felt she should have known it was too similar to mine-- which she really did because why would she have even bothered to ask in the first place? Ah well, she's not wearing it. And maybe I'll chill out on my annoyance after seeing all of these responses Smiley smile


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    Futuremrsgrill ·
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    In the picture it looks like a beige or darker champagne color to me. I wouldn’t wear white. Like I said if I was a guest, hadn’t seen your dress, and didn’t know the color and style was similar I would think it was acceptable.
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  • Carol
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    Carol ·
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    Lol! If I had a nickel for all the little annoyances during the wedding planning process my wedding would be paid for completely probably! I do think its too formal for a community center kinda chill wedding though as a guest- it seems like my wedding, more dressy casual rather than semi formal. Good luck and take deep breaths!!! Smiley smile

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