Really lopsided guest list

Yeah. I have a lunch rule for my guests. If we don't go out to lunch or dinner occasionally, we aren't really friends and they remain off the guest list.

I kinda looked at mine this way.. .have I REALLY talked to this person in the last 6 months? . Would we be upset if they didn't invite us to their wedding? ( even if their already married ) . FH has LOTS of family and a good circle of friends.. his list to mine looks "sad" lol I rank from VIP'S to people I've known for a long time ( Wich I know a good lot of then won't attend) just remember this is y'all's day. The most important people that show up are you and your FH

My first wedding was like that but at the end it all works out fine. We had our ushers seat people alternately on sides unless they insisted on bride or groom side. This time its switched to my FH having more since we are getting married out of state where his family lives. And I am fine and still have the mindset that at the end of the day it is for both of us.

I have a huge family and stay in touch with old friends a lot and my FH doesn't, and we are getting married where I'm from. I think he might have 50 total and I have 110. Lol

Our guest list was 80% technically "his" side. Didn't matter to me at all.

Our wedding is mostly FH's side. Doesn't bother me. He knows a lot more people than I do

Don't feel bad. My FH has MAYBE 8 people out of the 40 guests invited, and he couldn't care less.

That's how our wedding will be. FH's list is a lot bigger than mine. This is my second marriage and I didn't want to invited a ton of people, I would have been happy to elope. But this is FH's first marriage and he wanted the whole thing, so we did compromise. He cut his list down as much as possible.

When we were planning a bigger wedding, FH had the most guests to invite. It was kind of funny because my family is bigger overall but when it came down to it I only wanted my immediate family and grandmother there (only living grandparent). So, altogether, my side of the guest list was eight people. His was between 20/24 people but he has three sets of grandparents so it made a little sense.

As long as your FH has the people most important to him in attendance, I'm sure he isn't bothered by the lopsided guest list.

Since you are going to be a family, don't look at sides

That is my guest list.. my FH has 3 to my every 1. Out of our list of 140, I invited 52. He is more social, and his family is much bigger. We looked at cutting people, but it was not an option for him, since he has active relationships with all of his. *sigh*

So long as it doesn't bother him, I don't think it is an issue. FH will have more guests than me but that is because his "must have" list is longer than mine. It wouldn't make sense for me to invite more people just to even up the sides and he would be unhappy inviting less.

Ours will be lopsided on my side, being that I have a much bigger "family" (most are my dad's close friends that became aunts, uncles, and cousins to me) than FH but I don't think it bothers him since he'll have the people close to him there as well.

This is why we're doing the "pick a seat, not a side" thing. My immediate family is much bigger, but his longtime friends list is bigger. And we have alot of mutual friends.

It was the opposite for us; FH had 80 guests and I had 6 on my side of the list. Then his mom and grandma told me that they were going to be inviting people that I hadn't even met. That was when we cut the cord and said "Nope, immediate family only."

Doing that has made our list a little more even, but we were never going to be equal. FH has two sets of parents, 4 sets of grandparents, and enough aunts and uncles and cousins to count for themselves -- and everyone lives within 20 minutes. I only have one set of parents and one set of grandparents and one uncle, who has a family.

Anyway, we limited the guest list to 22 and honestly I couldn't imagine my wedding any other way.

I have a lopsided guest list but it doesn't bother me. I'm inviting 15 people out of a total 150 people. FH has a large family and they're all pretty close and I have a small, immediate family only. We're not doing the whole bride and groom sides, everyone is just going to sit where they want.

We have a lopsided guestlist as well. Out of the 52 guests, there are 16 that are exclusively MY friends/family. FH and I have a couple freinds that overlap but the majority of the guests will be his family since its larger and they all live so close to one another. (I have a large family too but we are very spread out)

When we were making the guestlist one of the stipulations I had to even out some numbers, was if I don't know this person, they probably shouldnt be invited. FH and I have been dating for 3 years and his family gets together A LOT. If I hadnt met the person at some get together, they arent close enough to be invited. FH felt bad until he realized how much $$$ it would take to feed everyone. Haha

Girl let me tell you about lopsided. Other than our mutual friends attending, I have four family members total. For family members total. The remainder of our guest list are 49 members of his family, and 25 mutual friends.

He has a large family. My family is my dad & his partner, my sister and my grandma.

I'm really hoping that people heed to our seating sign and don't just load his side up!

I'm in the same situation but opposite. I'm having just a handful while my FH will have about 100.

I think it's becoming more and more common for people to just sit where they please, not necessarily on the "side" of the person they are closest to. Just put out enough seats for each guest (with a little extra in case someone unfortunately brings an uninvited guest), so it wouldn't be possible for people to load up one side.

Our guest list is lopsided too. While 50-50 is nice in theory, it rarely works out that way. Some people have larger families, some people have a larger friend group, some people are really close with their co-workers while the other partner is not, etc. I think it would be worse for one member of the couple to have to cut out important people, or one person to invite a bunch of so-so friends for the sake of being "equal."