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Really lopsided guest list

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Kaye, on October 6, 2017 at 7:01 AM

This is my FHs second wedding. He wants something small which is fine with me. I'm working the guest list right now and I will have probably 3-4 guests to his one. Is this bad? It doesn't bother him, but I feel I am basically throwing myself a party instead of throwing US a party. I've asked for more suggestions. I have also thought about consulting his mother as well. I know a lot of his friends are also related to his ex-wife but that should not be an issue since I would like to invite her to the wedding as well. They have a great parenting relationship and she has been happily married for over 5 yrs. If I invite my college friends, it moves us from 30 guests to about 50 guests and it gets even more lopsided.

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Just Said Yes November 2017
SarahB · on October 6, 2017 at 12:47 PM
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My FH comes from a really broken family/past, and when we first made the guest list I felt like I was greatly overwhelming his side. He only has a few close family members and friends. We want 50 people at most, but out of those 50 only about 15 are "his". I feel bad, but he is always reassuring me that he doesn't mind at all. He says he's sincerely happy with his small circle and wants me to be able to celebrate with everyone I love as well
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