Received a last minute wedding invite, how do we 'gift'? **UPDATE PAGE 2**

Send the $25 gift card and call it a day.

Well, considering the wedding is 2 weeks away and you are just NOW receiving an invite...you were obviously on the B-List (maybe even C-List for that matter). Get them a card and call it a day. The fact that you are willing to attend should be enough given the last minute notice.

I wouldnt even send a gift. this is a classic "send an invite, maybe we will get a presents"

I think you were on the D-list. A gift card is fine.

I wouldn't even send a gift. Getting a wedding invite two weeks before is ridiculous, actually it is kind of offensive. That's $25 that could go to your wedding!

A gift card is fine. I, like Andilxn, wouldn't send a gift. I don't send gifts to random weddings I'm invited to and that I don't go to. If I go, I send a present. If I don't go and don't know/like the person, I don't send a gift. Call me tacky, but I'm not a fan of gift-grabbiness.

Yes, I have to agree with no gift at all.

I really don't want to send a gift, but I was raised that it's the proper thing to do lol.

I feel like we were on the D list! Like seriously, two weeks?! We had one week to RSVP, which I think is due on Friday.

I also think it was rude that the entire invitation was in Spanish, however I get that I may be the token Italian who isn't bilingual. However FH and I took this into consideration for our own wedding and are sending out two sets of invitations, one in English and another set that is in Spanish to his elders that can't read English.

Definitely agree with the above comments you were on the C maybe even D list lol. I would send nothing.

Send them something really tacky. Lol. Any re-giftable items lying around?

But seriously a giftcard is more than fine. It is very generous of you considering the circumstances.

I disagree with the rule that you HAVE to send a gift to every wedding and shower you get invited to-it's ridiculous. Especially since there are a lot of people that do send invites just for gifts-they could really care less if you are at the event or not.

I would not send a gift, but if you must then just send the gift card and be done with it.

I wouldn't even send anything.

I would send jack and squat.

That's an odd invitation...very odd. It only mentions a civil ceremony and no reception (never understood those -- if you're five minutes late, you've missed half of the entire event)? Why do I have a sneaking suspicion that the formal invitations went out six weeks ago and the invitation that was sent to you was from a pile of "we want gifts" fliers? Your MIL must have more information on the wedding. Just out of curiosity, I'd ask her about it. A gift? No way. A greeting card is more than sufficient.

I wouldn't send a gift.

We wouldn't send a gift. Honestly, I don't know if we'd even send a card.

It you were planning to attend, I'd bring a little something (like the gift card). But if you're not going to go, in this case? I don't think there is any reason to send anything at all.

Ya know...it might just be that his mom talked this couple into giving you an invite so maybe it isn't the couples fault...and they were trying to be polite to your FMIL. I think you can send a $20 and be good or send a card or don't send anything. Do what feels right.

For the sake of your relationship with the future in-laws, I think you are really showing who you are by showing respect to them and sending the card with the $25 gift certificate....as long as it isn't a hardship for you...

So FH spoke with his mom, apparently the couple sent out their invitations very last minute and received a lot of declines.

FH and I have decided to not even send a card.

Thanks for all the feedback ladies, you all made me feel so much less guilty about not sending them anything!