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Nicole
Just Said Yes April 2021

Redo wedding

Nicole, on June 13, 2022 at 11:18 PM Posted in Planning 0 10
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Okay so I want to redo my wedding I feel like it was a disaster. Me and my husband got married at the courthouse April 1st 2019 we was supposed to have our wedding that next year June 2020 well covid happened so we had to postpone that we had our wedding April 3 2021 but it was so stressful my sister the maid of honor didn’t come me and her fell out and not talking to this day none of family came besides my dad because due to covid my husband family some came but some made excuses due to covid or their car broke down and my husband brother best man was on house arrest so he couldn’t make it. In total we only had 35 people there and I was so sad because I wanted more people there and we wasted our money paying for the people that was supposed to come but didn’t and I just want a redo wedding cause it didn’t go as I wanted. And my husband sister is having her wedding next month I’m in it and it’s going to be big everybody going she having 150 plus people and I don’t want to feel jealous but I just feel like his family could’ve came to ours my wedding should have been better and it wasn’t.

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Latest activity by Jacks, on June 14, 2022 at 7:27 PM
  • Imani
    Master July 2022
    Imani ·
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    Hi Nicole. Sorry your wedding didn’t go the way you expected. However, I’d give understanding to the ones that weren’t able to make it. The 35 people that did show up should get some sort of appreciation as they also didn’t have to attend your wedding. As we’re still in a pandemic and 2021 there were spikes in numbers in certain areas. I wouldn’t suggest having another wedding just because people didn’t show. What else about your wedding are you upset about? Just the fact that not a lot of people showed up but will at your SIL wedding?
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  • Mrs.evans
    VIP October 2022
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    **** was very hard for everyone because of the pandemic not too many ppl really weren't supposed to be around each other. And I am so sorry that it wasn't the wedding that you wanted but the 35 ppl that did show up I would send them a thank you cards if you haven't already. And ppl were begin cautious because alot of ppl were getting infected. But on a brighter side if you talked it over with your husband then you can get a redo. I hope that you get the wedding that you wanted
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  • M
    VIP August 2021
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    Hi Nicole. I'm sorry you felt your wedding was a disaster. April 2021 was still an anxious time and all-open vaccine eligibility just started (in the US anyway). Many just started to leave their houses. I hope you and your husband can find the happiness in your day. If you do a redo or a vow renewal just to include more people, that is putting your joy and expectations on others. This is a big risk because you can't control them. The fam and friends may still not show or come up with excuses. Many WW couples were disappointed their pandemic vow renewal had a much smaller turnout than expected. Perhaps guests set their financial and time priorities with new marriages. I do wish you well finding peace.

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    Aww man sorry your wedding wasn't what you were dreaming of, the pandemic put a lot of couples in the same boat. My grandma used to always says the wedding is just day its the marriages that matters. Try to find a few special positive moments of your day to focus on, there are probably more then you realize. A re-do at this point could just result in more disappointments, I d take that money and go on a fabulous trip or plan a fun family party a nice big summer bbq but personally I wouldn't label it a wedding. A few yrs down the line you can do a big anniversary party if you still feel the same. Good luck to you, big hugs.

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  • Nicole
    Just Said Yes April 2021
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    Yes you’re right I do feel selfish feeling like this I been feeling like this since last year but other than the people not coming and the stress of my sister not being there everything did turn out beautiful and how I wanted it too. I did have my phone set on zoom so the people that couldn’t be there can still watch it live so it was a lot of people that did watch but I feel like that’s not the same especially if they told me they was coming and a week before my wedding tell me you can’t so we wasted our money paying for them to come and didn’t. I feel like it’s a woman dream to have her dream wedding and I didn’t it was set back after set back.
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  • Imani
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    I understand. Especially being out of the money you’d spent for them to be there. Maybe if you and your husband have the funds you can plan for something to have more people to celebrate with you all. I hope it works out for you.
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    I think your feelings are completely valid, its perfectly understandable to think about what c/should have been but try not to stay in those feelings too long. Celebrate your sister in law and know that you were just as loved even if people couldn't physically be there they took time out of their day to show up for you in whatever way they safely could. Even pre-covid I have heard many brides say their day didn't live up to the dream in their head it stinks but it does happen. Enjoy your married life and if later you want to throw a big party for yourselves you don't need an occasion just get everyone together and have fun. Cheers to you and congrats!

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  • Nicole
    Just Said Yes April 2021
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    Yea you right I feel like if I do a redo I’m trying to please the people that didn’t come but some of them didn’t come due to the pandemic so the people that didn’t come due to that I feel like just doing a redo or renew our vows just won’t spend a lot of money this go round. My husband is happy how everything turned out he said he’s grateful for the people that showed up but you know us women just want that dream wedding we all wish for and I feel like I didn’t get that.


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  • Nicole
    Just Said Yes April 2021
    Nicole ·
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    Thank you for that and you are right I’m not going to dwell on it and be just be happy for the people that did come and next time when we renew our vows it’ll be different.
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  • Jacks
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    I think that's a really good way to look at it. I would leave it vs having a third wedding and do a fantastic vow renewal or anniversary party in a few years.

    Congrats!

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