Registration this year and wedding next year!

Hi Judith!

FH and I have two couple's that we're close to that are eloping this year! One of the couples has already had an engagement party which also acted as their shower, and the bride is having a bridal shower next weekend! The other couple we don't know about yet. Both are just going to have a reception styled celebration with everyone when they get back from their elopement!

I will suggest that whatever you do end up having, on the invites make sure your guests are made aware that you've already eloped, especially if you're having a ceremony and reception. Some people don't take it well if that's kept from them.

Other than that, as long as they're aware of you already being married legally, I don't see why you can't have those parties!

What is legal registration? Is that legal marriage? If so, that is your wedding. Anything following is a renewal of vows. Calling it not a real wedding disrespects those who chose that route. Be honest with your family/friends because many relationships get torn apart when they are not told all the details.

But eloping forfeits prewedding parties. .

So by registered you mean you got married? It seems like you’re purposely avoiding using that word. You’re married. Given the circumstances, it’s totally fine to have pre-wedding events, but you should be honest with your guests. Lying and deceiving your closest friends and family is no way to start out a marriage.

View Quoted Comment Got it! Sorry in the country I grew up in, we called it “ registration” if we signed papers so was just using that word. Thought it will be more clearer in that sense explaining but yes we got married

View Quoted Comment Got it! Thanks! What would you recommend writing in the invites? I’m lost at how to word it 🤣 or would it be better to just casually tell each guest through a phone call/ convo before sending invites?

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• Got it! Sorry in the country I grew up in, we called it “ registration” if we signed papers so was just using that word. Thought it will be more clearer in that sense explaining but yes we got married.