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Just Said Yes November 2021

Registries & already living together

Sandra , on July 23, 2018 at 5:55 PM Posted in Registry 0 13
Good evening all!
So, my fiancé & I have been together since 7/11/2007; we got engaged 01/21/2018 & are planning our wedding for 7/10/2020. We have been living together since 6/2011; my sister MoH says that we shouldn't register unless we are moving to a new home. My question is, "Is it wrong if we register for new household items or is it tacky & poor taste??"
Just to add: what we have is old stuff, unmatching plates, unmatching utensils...I feel like I want to register but I do not want our guests to feel like we are taking advantage of them or wanting to double dip. How would you all feel as a guest?? Or what would you do in my situation??

All advice is welcome, thanks in advance!!
~Sandra

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Latest activity by Sara, on July 26, 2018 at 10:30 AM
  • Mandi
    VIP May 2016
    Mandi ·
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    DH and I lived together before marriage and still registered for gifts without moving into a new home. I never once had anyone tell me it was tacky or in poor taste. Like you, we both had older and mismatched items so we just registered for newer, nicer replacements. The idea of only registering if you are moving in to a new home is likely very old and outdated. You are perfectly within reason to create a registry. Just make sure it is for actual gifts and you are not asking for money or guests to pay for parts of your honeymoon.

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  • Going to the chapel
    Master July 2017
    Going to the chapel ·
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    Go ahead and register. There's nothing wrong with doing so.

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  • 2d Bride
    Champion October 2009
    2d Bride ·
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    The point of a registry is not to get people to give you gifts; it is to tell those who already want to give you gifts what you would like. So long as you aren't including registry information in your invitations, there is no harm in registering.

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  • Sandra
    Just Said Yes November 2021
    Sandra ·
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    Oh no, no, I am.asking for any money....I have actually seen a lot of that lately "honeymoon fund" & for me (personally) i think it's tacky, like letting ppl know "we can't have a honeymoon without your help Smiley winking " thanks for your advice Smiley heart
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  • Sandra
    Just Said Yes November 2021
    Sandra ·
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    I am NOT, NOT asking for money****

    Sorry ladies I'm new to this forum stuff....you'd think at 42 I'd have a little 'social media/forum' experience!
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  • Justine
    Super July 2019
    Justine ·
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    Go ahead and register! If your guests buy you gifts, they'll know what things you want to replace. That's what my FH and I are doing. We've lived together for over a year and have all of our mismatched dishes, etc. from when we lived alone.

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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    It's perfectly acceptable to register for replacements or upgrades of things that you already have.

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  • Keira
    Dedicated August 2019
    Keira ·
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    You have every right to register because the folks who wants to give have an idea.
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  • earias
    Champion December 2017
    earias ·
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    Yes you should still register. People want to give you gifts so a registry is a guide for them. Your age or how many years you've been together don't matter.

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    Expert October 2018
    Alison ·
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    We’ve been living together since 2008 and registered to upgrade items. Our pots & pans are 10 years old, we have mismatched dishes & silverware & we need new bathroom items. I say do it.
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  • Sandra
    Just Said Yes November 2021
    Sandra ·
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    Thank you ladies! You've given me a bit more positivity in making a decision! I appreciate it!!
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  • E
    Devoted October 2019
    emjo ·
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    We are planning on register for new items as well, even though we will have lived together for 2 years by the time we are married. We have some cousins getting ready for college and we will pass along our old mismatched dishes and cookware onto them. I'd say go for it and you can either donate your old items to charity or family.
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  • Sara
    Super July 2019
    Sara ·
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    It's not in poor taste at all. If you don't have something that you want/need, regardless of whether or not you're living together, by all means make a registry.

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