Registries still full, less than a week to go?

Did anyone host a shower for you? In my experience people only purchase off the registry for showers and give cash or check in a card at the wedding.

I’ve never seen people buy physical gifts for a wedding, only for a shower. We got all cash/checks from guests who attended our wedding.

You shouldn’t expect people to bring a gift, we had a registry and didn’t get everything and didn’t expect to. Also I agree with others people give cards and gift cards often so they don’t have to carry large items to a wedding. Best of luck!

We mainly had people buy off the registry for the shower about 30% of our registry was purchased.

For the wedding we had about 25% of guests send or bring physical gift and 75% did cash or gift cards. We ended up using the gift cards and some cash to purchase the rest of the must-have items from our registry.

I think you should probably expect that most people will contribute cash/checks at the wedding which you can then use to get the stuff you need off your registry. I have a registry now but really only expect 2 or 3 things to be purchased from it.

This may vary by region, but the vast majority of people around here give checks/money for the wedding. Registry gifts are usually purchased for the shower, if you're having one. Most registries give you a completion discount, so if there are things you really want/need off your registry, you can purchase them at a discount using any monetary gifts you get. That's what we did for a few key things we really wanted that no one purchased for us.

A lot of people gift cash. Probably over half our guests gave us cash & the other half purchased off our Amazon registry and had the gifts sent to our house. I had a bridal shower too. We had 1 registry, on Amazon, with 87 gifts total (125 wedding guests & 30 shower guests). After our wedding, we had 20 gifts left on our registry (so 67 purchased for the wedding and shower) and we just bought them. We got enough purchased on our Amazon registry & are prime members so we purchased the remaining 20 gifts at 20% off. I've heard people buy gifts up to a year after a wedding but the latest we got a gift was a week after.

Most our gifts we got at my bridal shower. As for the wedding, most people gave us gift cards or money. Some people also bought stuff we didn't register for.

Yeah, i had most physical gifts given at the shower. Most wedding gifts were cash.

I’ve never seen physical gifts given at a wedding. I can’t imagine lugging a stand mixer or vacuum cleaner into a wedding. We always gift cash unless there is a shower.

People will probably purchase things last minute or majority will give cash/checks. I wouldn't worry too much about gifts at this point and wait to see what you are gifted after your wedding. Congrats!

I had a few people bring physical gifts to my wedding, but what I got were personalized gifts, nothing from my registries. I have seen people get a few things from their registries at their wedding or sent to their house a few days before or after the wedding. There's a chance you'll get a few more things bought from your registries. Some people who couldn't attend may want to buy things from your registries within the few months after the wedding. Some people like to wait until after the actual wedding to send a gift. For us, we got mostly checks/cash/gift cards at our wedding and that's what was sent by those that couldn't attend, for the most part. Obviously you shouldn't expect gifts. If you had a shower it's unusual you didn't get more items from your registries there but it's so hard to predict what people will decide to give. You can take any money you get and purchase what's left on your registries as most places give a discount for items left after the event.

You say 160 guests, but since most couples give one gift ( outside of showers) and families usually give one gift whether 5 people or two, how many singles, how many couples, how many groups? If you have several whole families, you may be expecting only 60-70 possible gifts. And it is equally correct to have gifts delivered before a wedding, or after the return from the honeymoon. ( Usually within 6 weeks of returning, though they can do it anytime.). And since many knew you were moving close to wedding time, and may not have known specifics, people who intend physical gifts not money may be holding off, having gifts delivered after your wedding so you will not have to move them. They may have looked at your registry, but not bought yet. And there are many who may have gifts not off your registry. In our areas, and families we came from ( though different places and ethnic groups) only older well off family ever give money, all others give physical gifts. But I know many people who have received only half in gifts, the rest money. Not knowing your friends habits, hard to tell. . . Registries that suggest picking out a gift for every guest ( I found some that recommended 2 per person, are always way off. Few people invite all single people. And showers are usually a few of the closest friends and family only, giving a second gift. . . . If you have nearly 30 gifts now from 60-80 couples or families, you are not out of usual. Just likely to have more envelopes with checks, or gifts delivered to your final address.

View Quoted Comment Where most gifts are physical gifts not money, they are to be sent to the home before or after the wedding, never toted to it. We had over 240 boxed gifts, only a couple checks, including some from distant people not invited. Not one person brought a physical gift to the wedding itself. More that 40 gifts did come 2-4 weeks after the wedding to our new rental, though we moved in weeks before the wedding. With the chaos of moving, we appreciate d those, mostly big or hard to transport stuff .

In my experience the majority of wedding guests give MONEY. Shower guests bring physical gifts. We had a couple people not gift anything, a
handful brought wrapped presents the day of, and a couple more shipped presents after the wedding, prob accounting for maybe 10-15 items total. Everyone else brought cates with cash or checks.

Thank you all for the helpful info! To clarify about having a shower, I did have one but a very last minute one 2 weeks ago with just my moms side of the family. My mom’s side and dad’s side of the family don’t talk to each other. I wouldn’t have had a shower if my maternal grandmother hadn’t asked me a few weeks ago if I’d had one. She felt badly that no one else had put in the effort to put together a shower for us so she threw one together in a week. My mom didn’t really have the maternal instinct or foresight to plan something like that on her own and I have no sisters.
I also was not aware of about 90% of standard wedding etiquette going into planning this thing so I wasn’t aware that registries were more for showers. I probably wouldn’t have put as much work into it had I known it’ll be mainly cards at the wedding.

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But the good news is most registries have a "completion discount," so after the wedding you can choose to use some of any cash gifts to purchase whatever you want off the registry. I'm pretty sure the Macy's completion discount is 20%, and I believe it can be used in conjunction with other discounts/coupons.... With Black Friday and pre- and post-Christmas sales, you can probably do quite well in terms of buying the things you want most at a discount.

In my experience, a bunch of guests gave us money in cards to spend where ever the day of the wedding. People also sent gifts after our wedding. If you're a prime member on Amazon - they will give you a 20% off code for a 1 time purchase to complete registry.