Registry and House Fund!

Yikes... people are so triggered on this thread. I don't think it's rude at all to ask people that. You make it clear that they do not have to give you anything, but if they want they can give you money towards your first house. I'm doing this as well because for one I don't have my own house to keep these items and we are leaving the country 3 months after our wedding. We are saving for a home when we return to the states in a few years.

I hope everything went well for you though!

I think asking in a good polite way to put on the option of house fund or honeymoon fund and registry as on the website just add website on your invitation people can choose to give money or choose items from the registry. My parents are very traditional they told me to not use My registry I listen to them at my first wedding so I deleted the registry which at my previous marriage I only got kitchen items and hand me downs items which is fine I saved those items. Since it's my second wedding I am adding a registry for things I would need with my current fiance and there's nothing wrong to choose to have a registry, honeymoon fund or house fund is smart because would have a better time on settling down a lot more smoothly.

View Quoted Comment Good lord, the uptight individuals on this thread that assume the worst sound like lovely people to hang out with (please remove the object stuck in your rear) . It’s perfectly fine to set up an OPTIONAL honeymoon/first home fund on your wedding website. It’s 2022 now so hopefully the commenters on this have expanded their minds more than their mouths

You pay 30K+++++++ for weddings it's more than ok to let people contribute towards buying your dream home. We're not in the early 2000s it's now normal, even the knot says so.

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I don't find it rude at all. I would rather buy someone an experience or help them start their new life than buying some plastic Tupperware that isn't going to last a lifetime anyway.

View Quoted Comment This is a straight up lie. I know three people personally who had a house fund for their wedding and they were able to come up with a nice downpayment. They can afford their home just fine because they still work.

It’s clear the ones triggered by the idea of a house fund are boomers who own their home and (gasp!) can’t fathom the idea of (swoon) asking for on optional donation towards a downpayment. Let me remind you that is 2024 not 1924 and buying a home is incredibly expensive and difficult. I understand that you’re from a certain class and its probably hard for you to comprehend but most of us won’t inherit a villa like your parents and a garlic press won’t fix the problem.
I personally met 3 different brides who did a house fund and a few months after they bought a house with their downpayment. They still work and pay their mortgage but it was the boost they needed. It’s not a big deal. You are all acting like this is such a big offense