Skip to main content

Post content has been hidden

To unblock this content, please click here

O

Registry Dilemma… need advice

Olivia, on July 6, 2023 at 10:25 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 5
Please help!


I’m attending the wedding of a coworker coming up and she has only asked for cash for their honeymoon. This is her second marriage, a coworker who hasn’t been the nicest/friendliest to me, and who I ended up getting pressured by the work team to spend a lot of money for the bridal shower already (money I allocated for a wedding gift that has already been used). I only spent that money to keep peace at work.
Her future husband pays all the bills/mortgage, and she has told everyone her honeymoon is mostly paid for already but is only asking for cash for their honeymoon as a wedding gift.
I know the rest of the team is giving her $100 each but I don’t want to spend that on someone whom I am not that close to and who has been downright rude before. I am bringing a date to the wedding.
Since it’s “cash” only I again feel obliged and pressured to complying. Any thoughts or ideas as to an alternative gift I could give, or what amount do I give that is less than $100 since I doesn’t so much on the work bridal shower already?

5 Comments

Latest activity by Olivia, on July 6, 2023 at 8:30 PM
  • SandyZV
    Dedicated June 2023
    SandyZV ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    Garden Gnome. Always a winner.

    • Reply
  • Rhondayalex
    Dedicated September 2023
    Rhondayalex ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    Cut your loses. Respectfully decline attending the wedding. Stop allowing people to pressure you into something you are not comfortable doing. You're an adult. Be true to yourself.
    • Reply
  • Mcskipper
    Master July 2018
    Mcskipper ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    If you feel this way about this person, you should decline the wedding.
    Deciding to attend this wedding, in my world, is deciding to give a gift. Giving something that is not really wanted is likely going to get thrown away or donated , which to me is just as annoying as the giver as it is as the receiver, considering wasted effort to shop, etc. If you don’t want to do straight cash , you could consider a gift certificate to a local restaurant but if doing that, I’d recommend giving an amount that would cover a dinner for two.
    • Reply
  • O
    Olivia ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    View Quoted Comment
    Thank you for the advice. I’m going as it is office politics and better for the team dynamic than me not to go. I do like the idea of a restaurant gift card though. Thanks!
    • Reply
  • O
    Olivia ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    View Quoted Comment
    Thank you. I’ve already rsvp-ed saying yes and it’s in two weeks. I don’t feel ok declining this late in the game. It’s more for office politics to keep peace at work. In hindsight I should’ve said no probably. Thank for the reminder to be true.
    • Reply

You voted for . Add a comment 👇

×

Related articles

WeddingWire celebrates love ...and so does everyone on our site! Learn more

Groups

WeddingWire article topics