Registry Options

Its not tacky to have two, most weddings I've been to have two different retail registries. One couple registered they had a fund for home improvements since they didn't need anything.

Personally I don't like honeyfunds or anything but do what you want to do!

One of my friends separated the honeymoon fund into things like "dinner our first night in xxxx" "Admission to xxxxx" "hotel night at xxxxx" "Train ride from xxx to xxx" so the guests felt a more personal connection to the monetary gift and it seemed to go over well! Plus the money doesn't have to go to those specific things, but I thought it was a fun way to ask for the money!

I would make a registry for honeymoon related things and just put a note at the top of the registry saying something along the lines of, 'we're so excited to celebrate with everyone, your presence is lovely enough. We have establish our home already, but you would like to give us a gift we would love to have some new experiences and memory making opportunites.' Some people will still probably gift traditional things though 🤷🏼‍♀️

I honestly love honeymoon funds. I love the idea of gifting a night out, a new lesson, part of trip, etc. One of my FH's family members did a really detailed honeymoon registry and it was so fun and nice to imagine 'gifting' certain parts of their trip - for example they had funds for specific restaurants, day trips, and lessons they wanted do and then wrote a little blurb about why they picked whatever place/thing they listed.

I would go with your idea of both a registry for physical items and a fund (itemization of specific events/expenses would be a bonus and might encourage people to feel more comfortable contributing). Some people will only ever want to gift physical items so having a small registry makes sense.

If you do not make a registry, most people will bring you cash/check/gift cards.

However, if you want to have an actual registry, I would do one for physical items and one for your honeymoon fund.

Just skip the registry and people will gift cash that you can use for whatever you want. It’s silly to pay a third party to collect money for you.

Asking for money is always rude and financing a honeymoon falls into that as it is an optional event that you tailor to your own finances.

It is very common to have 2 retail registries as not all stores are located everywhere and some may not have everything you need/want.

Some people gift cash only and others do not gift cash at all, and if you don't have a registry, you will get gifts you don't want and can't return.

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I love this idea! The verbiage on top of the registry is perfect!

Thank You for the insight and all of your ideas!! ☺️

I, personally, would rather have money than gifts that would just clutter up my home. And who doesn't want to help a couple start their marriage off on the right financial foot? I think it's time for the "cash is tacky" slogan to get thrown out the window.

Definitely not tacky! I think it goes a long way with how you ask everyone to give you cash instead. You and your husband do not want to pile up with things you don’t need especially if you guys already been with eachother for a while. I’ve seen multiple wedding that ask for cash instead and I bet you your guest will appreciate that rather than having them stress about what gift to get you. There are cute littler ruffles and rhymes you can find on Pinterest where you can include inside your invitations such as “ (blank) and I have been together for many years and already have our pros and pans etc, we would appreciate instead...... blah blah blah” look it up! It’s won’t look tacky when you put the right words together!

I had 2 registries one was a honeymoon fund and the other was a bed bath and beyond. We are in the same boat don’t need much and prefer cash. Most people understood especially the ones closest to us, they knew we been together for 10+ years. But we did still have some but from the bed bath and beyond. We just made sure the things on there were things we never got our selves but always wanted. We just had a card in the invite with the information to both.