Registry Returns

No, when you return things off your registry you get gift cards. If you don't register for a lot, people will get you gift cards or what not

Why even have a shower if you just want to return the gifts? I think it's a little rude to essentially ask others to fund your wedding even if it's done sneakily like you're trying to do....

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I agree with this.

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This! It is beyond rude to have a shower to receive gifts that people purchase for you only to turn around and try to return them for cash. We lived together for awhile before getting married and managed to figure out things to register for. There's always upgrades to things you have. If you really don't appreciate gifts at a shower then you need to not have a shower. I would be beyond mad if I gave someone a gift they registered for specifically only for them to return it. I wouldn't even go to your wedding if you did that. A shower isn't thrown for the couple to fund their wedding. Have the wedding you can afford and be grateful if someone is kind enough to spend the time and money on a shower for you.

I would say not to have a shower since you have everything you need. For the wedding people will give cash or gift cards if you don’t register anywhere

View Quoted Comment 100% agree with this.

Frankly this isn’t just rude, it is actually *fraud* . And in fact the first poster was right, we had a few registry returns in the case of duplicates and stores didn’t give cash, they gave store credit— the stores don’t want this either! The fact of the matter is even though with a registry people are picking gifts off a list, they still put thought and time into the gifts that they select.
There are always other options— upgrades, games, hobby items, or, have some sort of themed shower — like a stock the bar party or something.

Showers are for gifts, not cash. Do not have a shower.

I’ve heard of just having a card shower. A friend did This and they got gift cards and some cash. They are military so getting together and transporting gifts were both problems.

In my opinion you should have a wedding you can afford. Asking others to fund it isn’t very nice.

I agree with others that this is a really bad idea, with the potential to be seen as very hurtful to your guests, and paint you and fiance as very immature and rude (a reputation which could potentially last for a very long time). Have the wedding you can afford; beyond the ceremony, which can probably cost less than $100 at a courthouse, it is an optional party. I would not risk offending people in this way so I could hold a party for myself.

View Quoted Comment All of this!! ☝🏽

Have a wedding that you can afford.

I agree with everyone else on this it is an INSULT and just plain rude ur wedding should already be paid for way before ur bridal shower I would think or close to it😔

No, typically if you return something you'll just get a gift card since you didn't pay for it to begin with. This would be super deceitful to guests anyway. I'd just skip a shower all together.

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First, thank you all for responding. Im sorry iv insulted you that was not my intention and I am glad that you opened my eyes to how the guests may feel about this. For the record, the shower is actually not my idea and I did not want to have one, but the grooms mother insisted on throwing one. Knowing what I know now I will not be returning any gifts and will work on my registry a bit more carefully. Thank you

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Agree with PP's and glad you're looking at it a different way now! Just wanted to suggest that you can register at places like Home Depot or Menards too for possible house projects, Michaels for craft things, Hobby Lobby for decor, Amazon for literally anything, furniture, etc - it doesn't just have to be dishes and bedding and more traditional type stuff if that's not what you're interested in!

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Well said Lady! You can register almost anywhere now, and guests are expecting your registry to feel more personalized and they want to get you stuff that you actually want and need! You can check out the list of retailers we partner with for some inspiration: WeddingWire Registry.

Personally I like registering with large retailers, because there is a lot of flexibility. A few guests accidentally bought the same item for us - but we certainly didn't mind having store credit at Williams-Sonoma and Macy's! We spent it much too quickly, and just on 'boring' every day things!

I would say just don’t have the shower. We aren’t having one because we already live together and don’t need any household items.

You can do a honeymoon registry as an alternative? That way you'd be getting gifts towards something and wouldn't be outright asking for cash. It's definitely not proper etiquette to ask for cash, even thought I get why you would want it. I don't personally know of anywhere you can register that would allow you to return things for cash. Everyone I've ever heard of would give you a gift card. Maybe put some things on there for what you think you might need or think of things you'd like to replace for nicer or newer than what you already have. You could also try to spread through word of mouth (relatives, bridal party, etc.) that you would prefer cash, but don't put that on your invitation.

I’m in the same boat - we didn’t want to have a cash shower — for the same reasons lol BUT we also don’t need much so we decided to say gift cards are also appreciated as well as what is on the registry !! We registered for things we will always need like new bath towels, sheets/bed sets , dish towels, holiday /seasonal decor, and gift cards! Amazon, target, anywhere Even to restaurants ! We have a daughter (4years Old) and with FH work schedule we don’t have much time for “us” so we have a once a month Family fun day/night where we do something special and a once a month just ya Date night ! And gift cards help ! So we don’t feel like we are constantly spending on going out.