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Registry?

Jenni, on September 30, 2019 at 6:08 PM Posted in Registry 0 3

My fiancé and I are moving two states away right after the wedding. We’re only taking my small car and thus don’t have a lot of room to take a ton of gifts with us, so we would rather have our guests give us cash or gift cards than actual items. I’m including a message on the invitations such as, “The couple is moving to [State]! If you would like to help them start their new life together, monetary gifts are sincerely appreciated.” My friend insists that even though we have that message in the invitation, guests will still gift us actual items and says we should still create a registry so we can return the items we receive for gift cards and later get discounts on other items on our registry. I have no doubt people would still gift us items. And I know it’s entirely possible to get stuck with gifts we don’t want and can’t return if we don’t have a receipt or a registry. I see where my friend is coming from, but I would think MOST guests would be understanding and give us gift cards or money. I know there’s an option to have gifts from a registry shipped to us, but we won’t have a permanent address yet and I don’t want to burden friends already living in the new state with getting packages shipped to their house for us. And I just don’t want the hassle of making a registry and trying to return a ton of stuff later. It also feels kind of wrong to have people take the time and effort to choose a gift knowing we’ll likely return it anyway. Thoughts?

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Latest activity by Christine, on September 30, 2019 at 6:16 PM
  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    Gifts, physical or monetary, should never be mentioned anywhere on invitations. I would definitely exclude your note about the move, everyone knows that cash is a good gift. Your friend is correct that there are some people who will give physical gifts no matter what, but they will do that with or without a registry. If you truly don't want any physical gifts, I would skip the registry and let people know via word of mouth or wedding website that, due to the move, cash gifts would be preferred.

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  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    There are totally people who will give you gifts and it may not be great. one of my bridesmaids, bless her heart, gave me a polaroid camera... really nice. but i already had one... so i understand your mindset about people getting you things you really don't need. but at the same time, it comes from their heart so it is what it is. hopefully most people will know cash is a good gift without having to be told it.

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  • Christine
    Expert September 2020
    Christine ·
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    I agree with your initial thoughts, don't create a registry. I'd put a note about your move on your website and on your details card, rather than on the invitation itself. I'd write something like, "We are moving to X shortly after the wedding and ask that you please not get us any gifts. Your presence is the only present we need! However, if you would like to contribute towards our new life together, cash or gift cards would be sincerely appreciated.”

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