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I would print it on computer paper and add it to the invite /rsvp /envelopes that you mail out ... not on the invite itself .. something like : “ we know its not traditional but instead of gifts we would appreciate any help towards buying a house”

Most people just don't mention any registries or even just showing a cash fund most people will think ah ok i'll just give them cash straight up rather than giving to the cash fund.

i had a honeymoon fund but most people saw it and just preferred giving me cash directly

Just don't register and people will give you cash. Funds are silly because they take a chuck of your money or charge people extra (I don't' need to pay an extra 3% to make sure I give you $100...I'll just give you $100). This would also mean no bridal shower (showers are for physical gifts).

I agree with Lady. Just don't register and people will get the hint. Cash is always a good gift, so it tends to go without saying. If people ask, you can tell them you're trying to save up for a house so you didn't want to register for a bunch of stuff to have to then move. Let your parents and bridal party know, and they can also help spread the word.

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much! I think we will go to with this idea ❤️

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There shouldn't be any mention of gifts in the invitation suite.

View Quoted Comment Interesting .. cuz in my social circles with the wedding invite has always been a slip of computer paper with “ the bride and groom are registered at (and then listed are bed, bath and beyond, target, amazon) and such places” i am in south east Pa

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Every shower I've ever been invited to had a note on the back of the paper invitation that stated where the couple was registered. Totally normal for us too! And I'm in South Carolina

I would say just don’t register and most will give you cash. If you’re already living together, folks will give you cash anyway since I’m sure you wouldn’t need two toasters😂. So I would just go with not registering.

Well ive decided to do my own hair and makeup the only thing i actually did have done is go get my hair colored i personal think if your own a budget like we are i would personally skip the spending money on it unless you can have them come to your house

Some people think its really tacky to ask for anything. If you don't specify anything about gifts most people will give you cash, and you can use that for whatever you are want. There will always be some people who will give you a physical gift because that is what they want to do and they will do it even if you explicitly tell them not to give you a physical gift or if you ask for cash - some people are set in their ways and their gift giving strategy is more about them than you.

Don't ask for money for a house fund, just leave all mentions of gifts and registries absent from your wedding website and most will give you cash/check. If someone explicitly asks you what you want then its okay to say you are putting cash gifts towards a house. Going this route also avoids you paying fees for a company to manage/collect funds for you.

I'm struggling with this as well - I got the idea from another bride, but am considering posting something like this on our wedding website:

Your Presence is your Present. We're extremely grateful to those who have taken time out of their busy schedules to celebrate with us. As we are blessed enough to have all home necessities provided for, we've opted out of a formal registry. Should you wish to bless us further, there will be a table and card box at the reception and we have included a link to our honeymoon fund here. Our most treasured possession is memories that we've made with each of you and we cannot wait for the ultimate blessing of creating new, lifelong memories together and with each of you on our special day. Thank you to all of our family and friends. We can't wait to celebrate with you!

View Quoted Comment Beautiful! Thank you so much for that! I really appreciate it ❤️ Good luck with your wedding 💕💕💕