Registry

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The "Dollar Dance" is still a thing because my DJ had it on the form but we opted out of it. I was scared to ask for that and take ppl money.

View Quoted Comment Ally, you can import anything to Zola. You do not have to put one item from their " store." You can totally have just a Wal-Mart registry on a Zola site. Thats what makes them so great. I understand. I wish you all the happiness in the world.

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We did the put money toward an item thing too. It's not like some of our friends and family don't have money to give but it seemed odd to expect them to spend $100 or more.

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Yeah, that just seemed odd to me too. First, the concept of dancing for money (no shame, just not something I want as part of our wedding). Secondly, I think guests know to bring a gift or card so I didn't want to ask for more. But we have a box for cards that I suppose somebody could also put cash into if they felt inclined.

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Right, I agree.

View Quoted Comment Exactly a lot of my family on my dads side are pretty well off but that doesn’t mean that I think they should spend a fortune on a gift and I’m also just horrible at asking for certain things

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I agree with you!

View Quoted Comment The dollar dance is definitely something we won’t be doing. I agree with you on that.

View Quoted Comment New sheets new towels place mats welcome mats games and activities you both like.

View Quoted Comment But if guest are going to bring something isn’t it better to say what you need or want? So you don’t end up with 5 table clothes.

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Oh, we have a small registry but this convo was about dollar dances. Basically asking for more money on top of a gift. If people want to give, fine, we just won't be asking for anything. Most of our registry is stuff we plan to buy anyway and gift cards.

My mom also insisted. My fiance and I have been living together for 2 years now so we really don't *need* anything, but we put together a small one on Amazon of things that would be nice to have. But I'm still trying to tactfully find a way to say "please just give us money for our honeymoon."

View Quoted Comment This is very true lol cause we don’t have a table we have a bar

View Quoted Comment Definitely lol if anything that’s what we would rather have if anything

We didn't have any showers or anything but someone asked us for our registry so we just put together a list on Amazon. It was quite untraditional and mostly just a good list of things to get each other for birthday/christmas/anniversary lol. The person who asked about it bought nothing from it. The only one who bought anything from it was my ex-husband and his girlfriend.

Given my FH & I are older( he’s 53 & I’m 41) and have lived together for 8yrs I am doing a registry that has a few items on it for the house. Things like the Kitchen Aide super mixer thing, deep corner soft microfiber sheets, and then every day dishes/glass wear and the fine china. As well as some “fun” items: Xbox One, controller, the cool colour changing lights by Phillips... So a kinda eclectic mix, various price points and things.
People want to give something sometimes that isn’t cash. And a few items can say “We gave ya a few ideas, but we’d prefer cash” without actually Saying that!

My cousin who just got married didn't have a registry. They did have a card box at the reception--it wasn't clear so I have no idea how many cards they received. There was one lonely gift sitting on the gift table. They also did no shower. It really makes me wonder what that one gift was....

Instead of a registry we asked them to bring a side or dessert dish to share instead

I'm not registering, my decision to opt out was we're both older couple and more established. But, I would never judge anyone that did or didn't. Your wedding your choice.

We are not doing one, however it isn’t either of our first wedding and we are older and living together for a few years. We are also having a destination wedding, so I really don’t want anyone to get us anything and am not having a bridal shower. But if you are having a shower, you definitely need a registry. I know most couples are living together, or at least not home with their parents, before marriage, but there’s always things you want. Register for that kitchen gadget that you wouldn’t buy for yourself but would like to have. Or new linens, everyone loves new sheets and towels! You don’t have to stick to the traditional registry stuff either. Register for something related to hobbies or things you like to do together, like camping gear or a beer brewing kit.