Regret an elopement?

Honestly, it sounds like the voice of worry in your head is that of other people and not really your own. If you want an elopement or micro-wedding, go for it. If anything, there is nothing stopping you from having a vow renewal down the line with all the bells and whistles if you do decide you wanted that.

I had 44 guests and it still cost double what I wanted to pay. If you want to elope go for it. I’ve been told I would regret many things but never did because I knew it was right for me.

You WON’T regret it because it’s what your heat wants now. In my 20’s, I wanted the giant 200-person lavish wedding. But I didn’t get married until my mid 40’s and our micro-DW and local reception later were so perfect for us and what we both wanted at this point. Go with your heart.

I eloped due to pregnancy 23 years ago, but I never wanted a big wedding. I always dreamt about an intimate wedding on a tropical beach and honeymoon at a peaceful resort right after. We will redo our wedding, and have it the way I always wanted. I don’t want to spend money to feed and entertain people. I rather splurge on more luxury for us to enjoy. I would never regret it. My family won’t join. I didn’t invite anyone to be our guests, just taking the kids. My family and friends knows me. Don’t get me wrong, we always spoil our friends with treating them staying at our house, pay restaurant bills 99% at the time, etc. But for my best day, I just want it peaceful. I plan to stream it because my besties are too excited and couldn’t be happier to see our ceremony, even from screen 😅.


Do what you and your fh want, and don’t worry about others. And covid is a good excuse to use for less guests or no guests too 🤣

Do what is best for YOU and your fiancé. And if you elope, you can have a wedding at a later date. Maybe a 1yr, 5yr, 10yr wedding for your anniversary.

I think if you are a person who has always wanted something small and simple, you will not regret it. Personally I was on the fence about eloping or having a microwedding, vs. a big wedding. I figured I was more likely to regret missing the big wedding than to miss the elopement, so we went all out with a big wedding. Also my husband always wanted a big wedding and I didn't want to deprive him of that.

But like I said, if you are someone who has never wanted the big wedding, I seriously doubt you'd suddenly start regretting it afterwards. You more likely are just feeling like you "should" based on societal expectations/how other people speculate you would feel.

I'd do a local microwedding or elopement. With covid, a destination wedding won't be happening any time soon, and if there's a resurgence, you might find yourself SOL.


I never wanted a huge wedding. I always wanted immediate family and closest family only. Between FH and me, that brought us to an 80 guest count.
Because of covid, we are switching to an immediate family only microwedding. My only regret is that we may not be able to invite my best friend and 3 extended family members. Aside from that, I'm very excited about this.
Do what YOU want. If a big wedding was never you, then it's probably not you.

Don’t try to please other people. Do what you and your FH want and focus on that. You can always do a celebration with friends and family later.

We just eloped on our original and it was such a beautiful moment, I wish we didn't spend the money on all the extravagant stuff for later.. I'm sure I'll enjoy having friends and family later, but the elopement was truly all we needed. A nice getaway for a week doing what we love most with it being only us

We're in a similar position, but in our case we can't afford to really have anyone there as it would be a destination wedding for my side, and his side isn't too bothered anyway!

We've got visas to deal with afterwards because we are long distance, so the more money we can save for that the better. The downside to this is that I now feel that there's no point in doing anything if there's no witnesses. We may as well just go to the courthouse in jeans. But the thought of doing that just makes me want to cry. I don't think there is a happy answer for us.

View Quoted Comment It’s the most stressful thing!! How far away are you guys from eachother? The resort we were thinking about going to said they could step in as witnesses for us no charge which was super nice. We actually were going to courthouse before super casual then do the symbolic part at our DW which is important for us because then the Catholic Church would recognize hat marriage vs courthouse.


We are doing courthouse because it is less problematic with having to translate all this paperwork and bloodwork since we want to marry in Cancun!

I think the most important thing is do you think you'll regret it? Are you only wanting an elopement because of money or other reasons? I agree that you can have a wedding without having a big wedding, if you did this how many loved ones would you invite? Would be enough just for a small amount.

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He's in Arizona, and I'm currently in Ireland. So, the Atlantic ocean and the width of the U.S. According to Google, it's 4872 miles.

We'd be marrying in Arizona, but my mum lives in England and isn't fit to travel, and all my friends live in Ireland.

I am having my elopement wedding on the fourth of july at a botanical gardens. Now i planned this all myself only 6 people will be there. We are getting married under this 7 ft tall stone bridge so I ordered this round arch that i will be decorating with silk roses to go in front of the bridge. I also got a red carpet for the walkway under the bridge leading up to the arch. 4x lanterns with led candles in them to go down the aisle. Behind each lantern I will place 1x red roses filled teddy bear behind. i will have a unit sand ceremony to seal the deal. Now im not sure if i wanna do music being that its only going to be 6 people there. After the ceremony i have scheduled dinner at a waterfront restaurant nearby to end the night. Tell me what u guys think. Between the wedding elopement decorations my wedding dress shoes accesories venue photographer officiant small wedding cake hubbies suit my sons suit plus dinner im on budget at $650


Honeymoon priced at $800 for a week in florida. Best decision ever

I turned a corner today with my feelings, and now I'm changing things. I'm saying goodbye to the traditional white wedding fantasy I had, as it wasn't making me happy. Now I'm focusing on making it a day for us, by us. We'll dress casual and spend the day doing whatever we enjoy, like having pizza, going to the cinema, walking round a park, going to an amusement arcade. I may still wear a veil, but the day itself will be far more individual than my fantasy fairytale. But most importantly, I feel happy and excited about the event instead of stressed and upset.

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Totally agree with Hannah. We're eloping a month from now, and the only person that knows about it, outside of he and I is my daughter. We'll have a celebration a couple of weeks after we return, depending on the whole COVID thing. If family and friends get upset, just remember... it's you two that are getting married.