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Regret not having dad walk you down the aisle?

Sarah, on August 7, 2018 at 12:19 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 3
My family has always been extremely close except a couple months before I got engaged my parents filed for divorce (after 30+ years). It’s not amicable, they’ve been fighting over everything for over a year now. The court date isn’t until 2 months after my wedding.

It has really strained my relationship with my dad, to the point I’m not sure I want him to walk me down the aisle. I’m worried if we are able to mend our relationship after the divorce is final that I will regret no having him walk me down the aisle. He’s done some pretty ugly things to my mom and used me/the wedding to hurt her. We really haven’t talked much over the last year, went from at least once a week phone calls to maybe a text every 3 months. Him walking me down the aisle won’t mean near what it would have before all this happened and I’m worried it will feel fake since our relationship near non-existent at this point. I’m also worried I will deeply regret it if he doesn’t.

Both of my parents have threatened not to come. I’ve never had family drama before, we’ve always all been close so I’m having a really hard time dealing with this. I still talk to my mom but all she wants to talk about is the divorce, I’ve asked to be left out of it multiple times but that’s all she can talk about to me. It’s hard to get excited about your upcoming wedding when all you hear about is divorce 24/7 and 2 of your most important guests keep talking about not coming. Really needed to vent about crazy families just a few months before our wedding.

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Latest activity by jt329, on August 7, 2018 at 6:43 AM
  • Kay
    Super November 2018
    Kay ·
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    My heart breaks for you, I am so sorry, I wish I had some advice but I think this truly only you can decide and you need to follow your instincts.

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  • Tpatb
    Master August 2019
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    So sorry you’re going through this. My parents were married 14yrs, divorced when I was 5 & still as I am grown can’t get it together smh definitely not 30yrs but I know all too well what it’s like to be the middle man smh Because you fear this is something you may regret I would honestly try talking to my dad & telling him how you feel. If maybe he could put his differences aside just for you on your special day. Divorces are just plain ugly :/ I truly hope things get better for you!
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  • jt329
    Dedicated March 2019
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    I am so sorry that you're going through this. My parents had an ugly divorce two years ago and they still talk about it, and they don't want to interact with each other at all at my wedding so I'm seating them separately at both the ceremony and reception. My dad and I had a very bad relationship growing up, but it's gotten better since we don't live together. I asked him to walk me down the aisle because, like you, I don't want to regret not having him do it. I would tell both of your parents how much hurt and stress it causes you when they threaten not to come and overshadow your marriage with their divorce, even though you still love them. Hopefully it will give them a reality check but divorces tend to make people crazy, which is understandable but not a good thing. It is so hard dealing with parents divorcing and I wish I could give better advice, but all I can say is it will calm down once it is finalized. It just really, really sucks that it won't be until after the wedding. I hope everything gets better for you with both of your parents.
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