Regrets

JerseyGirl -- your post really touched me.

My biggest regrets were not giving a thank you speech, and packing the timeline so tight we had very little time to mingle with our guests. Our coordinator warned me that our timeline was jam packed and asked if I wanted to scale down, we decided not to and I wish we had been able to chat with our guests more. And the thank you speech, we had planned on it but forgot to pass on that information to our vendors and then on the day of it was so hectic we just plum forgot. Also, I wish we had gotten two to three times as much of the ingredients for our signature drink because it ran out too quickly. DH however maintains that he regrets nothing lol.

Well, this was slightly out of my hands, but I regret being so sick on my wedding day. I wish I had gone to the doctor earlier in the week at the first signs, but I didn't because I usually get better with over-the-counter sinus medication in a few days. This time I didn't, and I had no voice on the day of the wedding.

My other regret is that I didn't have a photo-list. I trusted my photographer, and she did an awesome job, but looking back there are a few pics I wish that we had taken. I also wish we hadn't taken our family pics in the chapel, and had chosen a different location. Not the end of the world, but they look a bit stuffy compared to the rest of the pics.

I also had way to much food left over, especially on the dessert side. I think dessert & cake was a mistake, and I could definitely have cut out either one.

I also have a minor regret of not taking my cellphone with me. I wish I had snapped a few selfies with some friends along the way. I did consciously make the decision not to do this though.

However, I will say that my regrets do feel minor compared to what was an awesome day. My vendors were fantastic, my DOC was fantastic, and everything went smoothly.

My biggest regret is not moving the ceremony indoors when it was hotter than expected.

I mean, it wasn't deathly hot, but it wasn't really comfortable for 30 min.

I don't even have a reason why we kept it outdoors. I think we thought it just wouldn't be that bad.

I keep apologizing to my guests about it.

I have no regrets about the choices I made otherwise. I am super happy with how my wedding day went.

At the end of the day, marrying H was what mattered, and providing my guests with a great experience. The little details weren't that important. I wasn't even too worried about a problem with the officiant, because we could always just have gone to the courthouse another day.

I regret inviting my dad. If I didn't invite him then I wouldn't have been disappointed that he didn't even bother to show up.

(Sent him an invite, no rsvp, sent him a Facebook message, no response- still held out hope that he would have come.)

But the people who came and celebrated with us were the people we really wanted there.

We had a lot of guests decline and we still didn't get around to visiting every table. We had about 125 guests. I think we should have considered doing a receiving line. Then again, maybe we wouldn't have had time to get all of our photos during cocktail hour if we had done so. I think part of the reason was because food came out late, so we had a late start eating.

I don't really have any regrets (yet)....I still haven't seen all the pictures our photographer took so not sure how many I will have with my parents- or my husband will have with his mom. We started a photo list, but never actually finished it or gave it to the photographer- which I may regret but don't know yet.

We did get super lucky with the weather- while we had a backup plan for the weather it wasn't very good so I am really happy I didn't have to use it.

@Rachel- thank you. It all really just helped keep things in perspective for us with it being two of our VIPs.

I love our picture, to say the least. But, I wish we had formal shots with my husband's face unobstructed. There's lots of pictures where he's kissing my cheek and he's slightly hidden. We did get some really great shots and I'm really happy with them. But, I wish there was more.

I loved our wedding and I wouldn't change much so no real regrets. Now that being said I kinda wish it had just been us. No reception none of that stuff just something intimate and our photographer so she can capture the special moment.

No veil shot due to poor weather conditions.

No candid shots with my Mom and I from our cell phones, or guest cell phones (we have pro pics).

Not eating all that damn delicious cocktail hour food (I ate just a few things).

Having my family sit on the opposite side so they could see my face during the ceremony.

I feel these regrets are so minor, they hardly qualify as regrets. I had amazing vendors, and a DOC to make the night damn near perfect.

During our first look I was so in the zone I didn't pay attention to where our photographer was at. I tapped H on his right shoulder instead of his left so he turned the wrong way. We still got good pictures but I wish we would have had that first sight on camera

The place where I ordered my wedding dress bought my exact size. I wished she made it a little bigger, because it's always easier to go to a seamstress and have it taken in instead of the other way around. So throughout the wedding planning process, I was on a strict diet. I guess that's a good thing? Hahaha...

Good post! I regret not having a better plan for what photos I wanted. Some people send their photographer a detailed list of what they want, some photographers don't want that, but there are different in-between. I assumed we would get what we needed but in all the hustle, things were missed. Totally my fault - my photographer was AMAZING. But somehow, there is not one pic of my mom and I, and this kills me. So....make a list!! You will be too busy to remember at the time!

ETA oh, also, I hated my dress but I didn't have to guts to stand up and change my mind. So, stand up for yourselves haha

I wish I had stuck to my guns and not invited 2 family members that I was forced to invite to appease OTHER family members.

I don't have any major regrets, but if I had to pick one thing to change, I would have told the DJ to not accept requests.

@robyn the table 29 joke lol omg

The thing I would have definitely changed would have been the restaurant. The food wasn't bad but maybe if we pulled back in some areas we could have chose a different restaurant.

The vast majority of our day was amazing, and once we got going, I generally felt relaxed and able to enjoy it, so that was awesome. The only thing I would really change is getting a video of at least the ceremony-I didn't see a lot because I was so focused on what we were doing, and it would be great to revisit it. I'd also say that we wasted a bunch of money on cake, because we had a ton leftover lol. It was delicious though!

Kind of a unique situation. But one of my only regrets is spending SO much money making sure my perfect dress would fit over my pregnant body. It ended up busting on my wedding day and I felt uncomfortable in it all night. I could've spent the alterations money on a new dress and sold my unaltered dress online. It wouldn't have been my dream dress but I wouldn't have been so self conscious about it all night.

My biggest regret is definitely having one too many mimosas before the ceremony lol i was fine but it caused me to be in too much of party mode at the reception causing me not to get around and mingle with every one because i was too busy on the dance floor! I wish I had set time aside to make sure I spoke with everyone and at least said thank you for coming. Another thing i wish i had given my photographer a photo list of who i wanted photos with bc there are some guests and family i never got any photos with!