Regular Registry with Honeyfund options?

I always find WW responses about what's tacky interesting because what a lot of people on WW would find "tacky" is totally not what we've been experiencing amongst our family and guests. Within FH and I family, all our families can talk about is us opening a honeymoon fund. They really, really, really want us to go on a honeymoon. They say it's an important trip for newly weds and when we said we can't really afford it they practically begged us to open an honeymoon fund. We come from families that didn't have much money growing up themselves and several couples never took a honeymoon and they totally regret it and don't want us to miss out...

I have attended several weddings in the past few years (yay being in your late 20's!) and almost all have had a honeyfund option and until I looked at these forums I had no idea some people found it tacky. I like giving physical gifts, so I bought off the registry, but if nothing had jumped out at me I would have given to the honeyfund.

However, now that I know that the registry takes a cut, I will not be registering for one unless it is the type that they can actually pay for excursions (I have seen this option on the website for some of the resorts I have looked at). My friend group has started to lean toward paying for experiences over items so I think some of them would enjoy that if it is an option. I understand that some people will still feel this tacky, but I don't really care. I say if you think that your friends/family would like a honeyfund, do it. You know your guests...

What's funny about honeyfunds is the total opposite opinions.

I work with a girl who is also getting married, and when she was telling me about honeyfunds she was raving about how they are so classy and NOT tacky, like asking for toasters or something.

(why is it always a toaster?)

Anyways, different strokes for different folks. honestly, the only response I think that works in this situation. Do whatever you like.

In case OP is still looking for "thoughts", here's mine...

I'm getting married in a few months and still laboring over my registry. I was actually forgoing putting together a registry because we don't really need a lot of household items. We're in our 40s and blending 2 households. Then I thought... All of our home stuff is aging, so why not upgrade our stuff and have a small department store registry, and maybe do a honeyfund. It's been years since we've been to weddings (nowadays it's mostly baby showers and kids birthdays), and the last wedding we went to 5 years ago or so had a honeyfund. I thought it was fun to contribute to their honeymoon excursions, and other friends thought it was a great idea at the time. Their thank-you card had a photo of them enjoying the excursion I contributed to!

Since we don't have immediate honeymoon plans, we don't really have any excursions to look forward to. But we have been considering a honeymoon/home fund to use towards a future honeymoon and home improvement. I was looking at Thankful registry since they have an option to send cash either by paypal or write a check to mail or give on the day. You can even remove the paypal option and just have a cash/check option. I thought this was a cool idea because it would help with thank you cards, and even track down a check that was never received and may have gotten lost. This is probably ideal if you have a lot of guests and want to be able to account for your gifts (which I like to do).

I think this registry is really only great for the honeyfund. As a bride, I would prefer to have everything on one registry, if only to facilitate the thank-yous. However, from a guest's perspective, purchasing from the thankful gift registry is a little tedious. I think the tendency is to shop at the last minute for a wedding gift -- go to the store, grab anything left over on the registry... rather than taking the time to visit an online registry, pore over the options, then go to another website, make the purchase, then go back and mark it as purchased.

Speaking for myself, I actually do take the time to consider a gift I give to a wedding couple, and would be in the minority that would pore over the registry options. LOL So I loved the idea of a thankful registry at first. Then when I thought more about What Would Our Guests Do, I scratched the idea...