I posted previously that I was unsure of what to do for my rehearsal dinner in regards to an open bar or cash bar, but I was ultimately hoping my FH's parents would host the rehearsal dinner, however, everyone's response was that I needed an open bar.
Well, FH's dad just texted us that they booked a restaurant for the rehearsal dinner, but they chose the cash bar option. I looked up the restaurant that they booked and was able to find the banquet menu, and an open bar for 3 hours would be $15/pp so ultimately $450 at the end of the day with our 30 person guest list for the rehearsal dinner. Would I come off as rude if I just added the open bar package on there on my own dime? I don't want to come off as what they did contribute wasn't enough.
I should mention that things with FH's parents haven't been easy, in wedding planning and in life. So I do have quite a bit of anxiety surrounding this as everything I do is wrong in his mothers eyes, and she's screamed in my face numerous times that I'm rude and mean and ruining her life when I literally do nothing to her.
