Rehearsal Dinner Debate

So I'm not sure if this is the correct board. My fiance and I are getting married at what will be our farm, his grandparents live there now, but my fiance re-did a pond (ceremony location) and put up a new large building (reception location). We have been talking with FMIL and FFIL about rehearsal dinner and other little details. They offered to pay for the rehearsal dinner and have been very generous in offering to help with anything if my parents need help. My fiance and I are both very low key people. Our wedding isn't going to be "redneck" by any means, but we both don't see the rehearsal dinner needing to be a big hassel. We had discussed not going anywhere for rehearsal dinner- having it catered there or even pizza, wings and salad. FMIL wanted to rent a banquet room at a hotel for the dinner. It would be about a 35 mintue drive and it is just not our style. It was a very nice place and the food was good when my fiance's sister got married, just not us. We politely told her that we would prefer to not have to travel anywhere for the dinner or at least not that far the night before the wedding. I explained that two of my girls are going to be traveling good distances. I would rather them not have to travel to dinner and be able to help me with some set up. FMIL is concerned with eating in the reception area- I told her that my tables probably would not be decorated yet because my girls are going to help. I kind of decided it's just the rehearsal dinner I'm not going to fight her to the point there is trouble because they are offering to pay for it. FFIL is fine with whatever we would like to do. Thoughts, ideas? Thanks! Sorry for the rant! Lol!