On my old profile I asked this question in regards to our wedding party and their SOs and you all were very helpful!
My next question about this is, do we invite extended family to the rehearsal dinner?
We will already have a good amount of people there with just the wedding party included. My FHs brothers and dad are all in his wedding party, so their wives and children will attend the dinner. (putting our attending count at 30) The only person on my side that would be attending is my mom, and I know she would want to have more of my family attend the dinner, which would mean my only choice is to invite my extended family (aunts & uncle and their families). I have no siblings and my father isn't in the picture either. The problem that arises from that is us feeling like we're excluding my FHs extended family if we don't invite them as well.
If we end up having immediate and extended family (all will be traveling out of state, and we are SO grateful for them doing that) the attending list for our dinner would be upwards to 60 people....and we just don't have the budget for that. (my FFIL and FMIL are giving us $2k for the rehearsal dinner and bar mingling combined)
I also want to add that after dinner, we're meeting our traveling guests that are staying at the hotel with us at the bar area in the lobby for drinks and mingling. We would still be spending time with all of our extended family there as well, but we just don't know if it's required to invite extended family to the dinner too.
TIA!