Rehearsal dinner - plus ones

View Quoted Comment Just reading through all of these comments makes me
feel so awful. Im doing my absolute best to make sure everyone has a good time; I don’t come from money by any means and all of this is a huge stretch. Is it really so bad to ask SOs to hang out with their other friends for 2 hours? This all makes me feel so incredible guilty for not coming from money.

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Every group is different, I'm sure your group will understand. All of our bridal party will be in a hotel so it would mean the SOs are sitting in the hotel room by themselves, which is weird. I've had plenty of friends pay for their entire wedding on their own and still include SOs, so I don't think not coming from money has to do with anything. It's just where you allocate your budget, which is totally up to you! I was in a wedding that had everyone pay for their own rehearsal dinner meal. It was tacky & a little ridiculous to make us go to dinner, I'd rather just go home, but everyone still went. A few people went to another restaurant a few blocks away and left early, but it wasn't the actual wedding so it isn't a big deal. If your group hasn't brought it up to you, I'm sure they are fine with it too.

View Quoted Comment My FH is a grad student and our combined income is 40k lol. It’s all a stretch no matter what we do.

View Quoted Comment Sorry I’m ranting I’m just really upset and worked up over all of this. I’m doing my best and it doesn’t feel enough and it feels terrible.

I think if they're in a serious relationship the significant other should be invited. If they're just bringing someone as a "date" to the wedding it's not necessary that they come to the rehearsal dinner. For instance, my FH's Best Man has been dating this girl for a while. We know her and hang out with her, but she's not a part of the wedding. I still included her in the count for the dinner. Honestly, it's your decision so just do whatever you feel comfortable with!