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Rain
Savvy October 2019

Rehearsal dinner timing

Rain, on September 14, 2019 at 1:41 PM Posted in Parties and Events 1 13
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So issue is we are doing a rehearsal at 4 at the venue the day before the wedding but I am also doing my Bridal shower that day too since most of my family and guest are from out of town and I want them to be at the shower. Issue we are running into is if we do the rehearsal and then dinner after then some won't want to do the shower at like 8 pm after traveling and being with us already or I can do the shower after the rehearsal and then we can meet up for dinner. But if we do that then we are asking people to come take time to rehearse then leave for two hours to then meet up again for dinner. Not sure what to do. Suggestions? We would do shower early but then we run into out of town people driving in still.

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Latest activity by Rain, on September 16, 2019 at 9:22 PM
  • Cher Horowitz
    Master December 2019
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    I think you'll have to just accept that not everyone you want at the shower can make it. It sucks, but in my opinion it's better than not having those you want at the rehearsal!

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  • Rain
    Savvy October 2019
    Rain ·
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    True, so do the rehearsal dinner first you think? It will be very informal just a thank you to everyone
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  • Cher Horowitz
    Master December 2019
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    I'd keep the rehearsal dinner first!

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  • Yoice
    VIP March 2019
    Yoice ·
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    I would think a bridal shower at brunch time would be best but you mention not everyone would have arrive by then. This is how I’ll do it.
    If none of the our of town guest are part of your rehearsal do early rehearsal and then a small private brunch/lunch for that group. Then an afternoon bridal shower around 6 pm
    If you do have out of town guest for the rehearsal then do rehearsal at 4 pm. Rehearsal dinner at 5 pm and then bridal shower right after. I’ll say 7 or 8 depending how late dinner runs.
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  • S
    Just Said Yes June 2022
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    Have your rehearsal, then invite everyone for a meal after. You could just specify that it was pot luck if you’re having it at someone’s home or pay for your own meal if you’re going to a restaurant. Idk, just combine the dinner and shower somehow...?
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  • Rain
    Savvy October 2019
    Rain ·
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    Thank you all for your input!
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  • Future Mrs. Danger
    Expert November 2019
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    Have you maybe thought about combining the two? Im assuming for the majority it will be the same group of people.
    So maybe do a brunch inviting everyone that would attend bridal shower and rehearsal and then when its over, only the people who are attending the rehearsal go to the rehearsal. You will have fulfilled your obligations of feeding everyone attending the rehearsal and you wont have to be up all night.
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  • Dedicated May 0021
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    1. Have a bridal brunch earlier in the day

    2. Have the bridal shower on Thursday instead of Friday but not everyone would attend.


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  • Vicky
    VIP January 2020
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    The point of the rehearsal dinner is to thank people for coming to the rehearsal; they should not be asked to pay for their own thank you by providing a dish for a potluck meal or paying for their meal at a restaurant.

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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
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    Can you do the shower before the rehearsal?

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  • Rain
    Savvy October 2019
    Rain ·
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    Oh I know, we are having it catered, people aren't paying or bringing food. We could possibly do it before the rehearsal but we run into not everyone being there quite yet. Just frustrating that my finances mom and family isn't coming until Friday afternoon and I want them included. We will make it work somehow.
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  • Kelly
    Devoted March 2021
    Kelly ·
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    Is the rehearsal the day before the wedding?? If not, have the shower the morning or afternoon the day after the rehearsal dinner. That way you won't have to worry about the shower starting too late. If it is the day before, I think having the rehearsal, then shower, then dinner would be okay, if most of your guests are from out of town and just getting in that day they may want to rest and regroup for a few hours before dinner anyway. I'm sure it will all work out for you!! Good luck to ya!!
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  • Rain
    Savvy October 2019
    Rain ·
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    Thank you! Yes rehearsal is day before and we are setting up venue to so a chunk of people will be with us then. Just short time to fit stuff in but it'll all work out
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