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Just Said Yes April 2022

Rehearsal dinner to invite spouses

Natalia, on April 23, 2021 at 10:14 AM Posted in Planning 0 8
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Hi everyone! So we are going to have a small intimate wedding consisting of 50 to 60 people. An our wedding party is already at 25 people including our ring bears and flower girls. Would it be wrong if I don’t invite our friends spouse, and the only reason why I’m saying this is because by the time I add them all up we are talking about almost 40 people. I thought it would kinda be silly to add them in because it basically like we having a whole another wedding. Plus, my fiancé doesn’t want to add them because he says it would be nice to just see his groomsmen. All of his groomsmen are in the military like himself, so he was saying it would be nice to just spend time with one another because it’s such a rare occasion. So far multiple people have agreed with him. But I guess I just don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings.

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Latest activity by Maggie, on April 23, 2021 at 12:49 PM
  • Givemeallthepups
    Expert February 2020
    Givemeallthepups ·
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    Spouses should definitely be invited to the rehearsal dinner.
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  • Meghan
    Master October 2019
    Meghan ·
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    Spouses need to be invited. So do any significant others. It would be rude to invite your wedding party to the dinner without their significant others!

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  • L
    Lady ·
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    Spouses and significant others absolutely need to be invited to the rehearsal dinner.

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  • N
    Just Said Yes April 2022
    Natalia ·
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    Update, I spoke to everyone in the wedding party made it optionally and they all said no to there spouses coming. An some even said no to the kids being there because it might be to late. (Which is totally okay with us. We want our guest to be happy and comfortable)
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  • Sara
    Dedicated September 2021
    Sara ·
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    Made it optional for the wedding party to attend the rehearsal? Or made it optional to bring their spouse? I can't imagine my wedding party not wanting to include their spouse/significant other in the wedding festivities, including the rehearsal dinner. Rehearsal dinner is a thank you for them spending their valuable time on you and a lot of times, the spouses give their time as well. If you can't afford to have spouses/significant others or don't want them there, then skip the rehearsal altogether and let your wedding party do as they please the night before.

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  • Michelle
    Rockstar December 2022
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    Spouses and significant others must be invited. Scale back on the formality or price to be able to accommodate everyone. If that means scrapping the fancy dinner for pizza and beer then that’s what you do. One of the downfalls of large numbers of attendants.


    If they want to get together just them, have a different event for that purpose.
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    Just Said Yes April 2022
    Natalia ·
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    It has nothing to do with cost it was honestly just preference. We aren’t people who like giant wedding, we are super simple. An we talked to the wedding party and the majority of them said no to bring spouses. Which is fine with us. We have a very honest group for friends who would tell us so we aren’t worried.
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  • M
    VIP January 2019
    Maggie ·
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    If your friends are OK with excluding their own partners, then I guess you are OK to do it. I wouldn't feel comfortable even asking friends that question, but everyone is different.

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