Rehearsal dinner woes...

Pizza, beer, pasta, salads etc sounds perfect!!!!

Pizza is totally fine! doesn't have to be fancy!

I'm doing a cookout for my rehearsal dinner, nothing to big and everyone loves BBQ food, and pizza. LOL

She's paying for the whole wedding and you're pissed she won't pay for the RD? Seriously...

Anyway to answer the question, there's absolutely nothing wrong with pizza, wings and beer. Your FH is right.

Pizza, wings and beer sounds great.

Go with the pizza and beer. It doesn't need to be anything fancy and if this is an unexpected expense the cheaper option will probably be better.

I definitely would not be pissed - I'd be pleased! I'm all about pizza and wings.

Pizza will be fine, I understand wanting to be fancier but it isn't needed. Plus I love Pizza and beer

We are going to look into any breweries in the area that serve food, but we are definitely wither going the burgers and fry or pizza and wings route!

@ladypearl you obviously didn't ready my OP or any comments. I'm not "pissed" she isn't paying. I stated that I totally understand. I just wish she had told me this with more than 19 days till the event so we could have saved more and not had to dip into a savings account...

Our reception is semi-formal and we are doing pizza at the rehearsal dinner. I want it to be very casual so everyone can get to know each other better.

Dude...lol Slow down Pearl.

She sounds nothing but grateful for her moms monetary contribution. And more salty over her moms attitude regarding asking FIL's for money and general lack of concern for OP's time constraints this close to the wedding. Or am I just making shit up OP? lol

eta: AND has expressed that she is entirely fine paying for the RD herself and was even under the impression she needed to do more with her OWN money than her FH suggested.

We getting married about an hour and 15 minutes from our home, and are doing the same thing. We are serving pizza, salad, and apps at the cabin we rented for the weekend. It's a pretty large space with lots of seating. We will have wine, beer, sodas etc as well. It certainly doesn't have to be fancy. We are treating everyone to apps, dinner, a full bar, and late night snacks on Saturday...that is plenty!

I hear ya, the unexpected expense at the last minute would be an unpleasant little surprise. I'm glad you're willing to go the pizza and beer route. For my first wedding we had the RD at a local chicken joint that was....barely a step up from fast food, but delicious. It was a hit!

Nope, not slowing down at all Sarah. Dip into savings for pizza and beer for the RD for 25 ppl. And yes, IMO, which I'm entitled to btw, she needs to just suck it up and pay for it. Thankfully it's only the RD and not the venue, decor or something else. It could be worse, right?

I appreciate that you have an opinion and you exercised your right to share it.

"That's why I'm saying we're going to pay for the RD. Im just trying to be a good host and not spend our entire honeymoon savings."

She gets the need to suck it up and pay for it.

Pizza, wings, and beer is fine.

@pearl just bc you can have an opinion doesn't mean your opinion is right. You're dead wrong for coming at her like that.

@OP I understand being annoyed at the late notice and I don't find that you're being ungrateful at all. ETA: pizza and beer is fine.

OP I don't see you being ungrateful at all and that you want to host your guests well is a good thing. You can certainly be frustrated but it sounds like you took it in stride. Just wanted to throw that out there after the ungrateful b comment above.

HAHAHAHAHAHA @pearl. Thanks for the laughs. Even though you supposedly read my OP and comments twice you still don't get it. I was never complaining about stepping up and paying for the dinner. this post was never really about the money. We have the money to pay for a fancier dinner. FH didn't want to spend that much. I just wanted opinions on whether a fancy sit down dinner was necesary or not. I prefer non fancy food as a general rule but I wanted to be a good hostess and thank not only my family but friends and BP as well for their hard work and dedication to being there for FH and I. It sounds like you're just bored and have a chip on your shoulder. Go ahead, get it all off your chest...vent your little heart out. I work with emotionally and physically abused children so I'm trained in the TCI method of emotional first aid...let it alllll out honey <3