Relationship Advice: Calling all Fanfiction Readers

I totally get the hesitation to tell your FH that you're reading a fan written story about two well known fictional people that are straight in his head but are totally banging in the story. It can seem kind of weird when you put it to yourself like that, but I promise you're overthinking it.

I've read fanfic since HS and have been an anime fan even longer, but barely anyone knows that about me. DH likes to call me a "secret nerd" lol. If he asks, just tell him straight up what you're reading and why - you love the original story, you love to read and fanfic is free, and there are so many beautifully written ones out there. DH was kind of curious about why I basically read homo pairings exclusively and I was just honest and told him that I find the relationships (something I will never experience as a woman) complex and interesting in a literary sense (def not trying to fetish-ize gay relationships) and I happen to enjoy the thought of 2 dudes banging

He might not understand, but he should accept you and the things that make you happy. Good luck!

MHM: You have read my mind. Thank you! You've articulated what I have been struggling to. I agree that the relationships are more complex and interesting. I tend to experience more of an emotional roller coaster than normal het pairings. I'll try to point that out when I tell FH.

@HoneyBee - No problem, I'm glad it helped! Don't freak yourself out too much - I can't tell you how nice it is to be able to tell DH about something hilarious I read in a fanfic or about a really amazing one I've been reading. DH isn't a reader AT ALL so he really didn't get the appeal of seeking out fanfic to read more. I still save my anime nights for when he's out with the boys because while it's so good, sometimes it's so freakin cheesy (Naruto is my guilty pleasure ). But now whenever DH sees an anime meme or reference on fb, he gets all excited to see if I get it. It's just really nice to share that part of myself with someone and it's healthy to be open with each other.

y'all are getting married, y'all need to be able to be yourselves entirely with each other. If you don't feel like you can be you without it diminishing how he perceives you then there is a problem. FH and I are weird af. We encourage that and feed off each others weirdness. I've never been more me and he's never been more him than we are together.

You should both have hobbies outside of each other but they shouldn't have to be a secret

Now I just want more HP fanfics! lol I looked up the one you suggested Kate, it sounded really interesting.

OP, do you have any HP fanfics that you'd recommend?

Dup.

If this is going to be your husband you should be able to talk to him about anything and this seems like a minor issue.

I read (and have written) fanfic incl. Slash. Never occurred to me to tell him about it or to be ashamed. He knows I like the idea of 2 guys though, and it's something we both joke about. Unless you want him to roleplay it out, I see no need to tell him if you don't want to. We're not required to account for every minute of our time to our spouses.

I love that this is a post! I love FanFic! Honestly, I started reading it pretty young too. After I finished all of the HP books all I could think was "Oh I'm so not done with this universe!"

Honestly, I love almost all types of stories from romantic to totally platonic. I don't think you have to worry about being judged for reading about a gay relationship. I ship Harry and Draco so hard so I love reading those fics (with Draco being "good" mind you). @Kate I love Hermione/Snape too as adults too!!! I love catching up on fics on rainy/snowy days with a nice cup of tea!

Don't be embarassed about something you love! I told my husband about it when we were engaged and he shrugged and was like, okay.

I don't think you should be embarrassed. I read fan fiction, some straight some gay, and my FH knows and couldn't care less. It's just like reading books. He's learned the lingo so he can jokingly ask me who I'm shipping of if my OTP is still miserable. Lol. Everyone has hobbies.