Religious family

You shouldn’t do anything. They will come around if their relationship with you is a priority for them. If they don’t, their loss.

You could always have a private religious ceremony with just the two of you and a pastor now, perhaps streaming it if your family wants to watch, and then have a bigger celebration next year. But it's also true that if you're old enough to get married, you are old enough to make your own decisions. If they are not talking to you, that says something about them, not about you.

I don't know if there's anything you really can do. They need to accept that this is your life and hopefully they will come around. Having a private religious ceremony might not be a bad idea if it will keep the peace.

Are you Catholic? If so, talk to your priest. We had my now husband's parents' priest explain why they could not push us in to marrying in the Church, as I am not Christian. But that, in the eyes of the church, though we did not have a sacramental marriage, the Church recognizes any marriage where a couple have gone through the legal procedure, and stood before each other and God, is a valid marriage. And recognized us as a married couple. And that we should treat each other as a married couple. Live together, love and respect one another, and be faithful , having sex only with each other, from the time if the civil marriage, forever. This is why, even if you do not marry in the church, after any valid marriage, the Catholic Church requires an annulment to dissolve a marriage. Because when you made vows to each other, before God, though only in a civil ceremony, it is a valid marriage. One of his husband's brothers married an American, both overseas. Did the paperwork. And when they came back, parents all upset again. By then s time their church had a new pastor. We talked to bro and new wife. Parents were so upset, they were living in sin. We went with them to the new priest. He said, tell them, we would not advise you in advance, to just have a civil ceremony. But having done so, and in a place with no Catholic Churches at all, we are not going to say you are living in sin. You have a valid marriage...same thing. And as a married couple, should be treating each other as husband and wife. It is good that they wanted to regularize their marriage in the church, and do what is required, and have the ceremony to receive the sacrament of marriage. But until then, you are already a married couple. Live that way. In the end he agreed to talk to the parents. Who are old fashioned, sure the nuns always told them it was living in sin to have just a civil marriage before living together. But they accepted this new priest explaining, again, what a valid marriage meant. And how their good intentions of going through the process of a sacramental marriage, paperwork and classes and the ceremony, could be done while living together as a couple who were in a church recognized valid marriage. I will look and see If I can find it on an official church diocesan website. That you are already married in the eyes of the church, in a valid marriage already. It is a philosophical point often discussed with divorce proceedings. But as the church prefers the sacramental marriage be first or at the same time, they don't usually bring up that it is a valid marriage anyway unless you already did it.

If you got married legally, you’re married. You’re adults and your family is being immature for being conditional with their love. Not very religious of them. You could point that out or just let them be.