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Religious vs. not religious

Christina, on April 11, 2021 at 4:33 PM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 5

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My family is extremely religious and I was raised with a strong Christian influence. My fiance is not religious at all and does not believe in God or any religion. We are having a hard time agreeing on an officiant and flow for our ceremony. I want there to be some Christian aspects (use of traditional vows, scripture reading, prayer), but my fiance wants to limit religious elements as much as possible. I am open to a pastor or an officiant, as long as they will take the time to get to know us (I haven't gotten that feeling with any that we've met so far). Does anyone have recommendations for pastors/officiants with experience in this type of a situation who would be able to help us create a ceremony that is meaningful and unique for both of us?

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Latest activity by Kelly, on April 12, 2021 at 12:02 AM

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Ava · on April 11, 2021 at 4:41 PM
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You can hire a non-denominational officiant who can guide you through this. There are certainly ways to make your ceremony spiritual, without making it specifically Christian.
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Michelle · on April 11, 2021 at 5:16 PM
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Many officiants are used to that. Look for a nondenominational officiant and both of you interview them to see who you click with best.
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Kk · on April 11, 2021 at 5:26 PM
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Have a friend or family member get ordained online and officiate.
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Meghan · on April 11, 2021 at 6:18 PM
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I am religious and my fiancé doesn’t practice. We’re both catholic, but using a pastor from the church his dad went to. We chose to use the pastor to honor his parents. I also asked the pastor if I could incorporate some Greek Orthodox aspects, as my mom is Greek and I also attended services growing up. He didn’t have any problems with doing so. I would say for you and your FH to talk about what’s important to each of you for the ceremony. Then find someone who can bring incorporate what you’re looking for.
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Kelly · on April 12, 2021 at 12:02 AM
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We are in your situation but the opposite. My FH was raised Christian and is a Christian. I am not religious. Religion was a sore subject for both of us for a while.
We were gonna have a pastor then my fiancé decided that we should have a civil ceremony and just incorporate a Hawaiian cultural tradition (we are having a destination wedding in Hawaii). Our officiant is Christian but also offers non religious ceremonies. Ultimately, I asked him if we could do a Christian ceremony that’s not so “intense.” Our pastor is super chill and he told us he’s not the type to be like “Jeeeesus.” And he typically just gently weaves in the Corinthians passage (which I love).
Depends on you guys. But I was so fortunate to find a laid back pastor who is open and has experience with interfaith couples. My FH and I are both really laid back so this was perfect. I think if you are going to have a pastor, you will know during an initial meeting whether they are the right fit for both of you.If you didn’t want a Christian pastor as the officiant, maybe you guys could do a first look & wash each other’s feet & maybe pray together?Good luck!
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