Remove a bridesmaid

Is there any middle ground where you can have a conversation with her about why her behavior was inappropriate and whether you’ll have to worry about that again at other wedding events? Then make a decision based on what she says. Without more details, it’s hard to say if she was doing something completely inexcusable, and she might be surprised to hear that you didn’t approve of her behavior. Hopefully she can take some constructive criticism and adjust accordingly. If not, you can remove her but expect it to further damage your relationship.

How far away from now is your wedding? Typically there is no way to ask someone to step down without the friendship ending, because it is a role reserved for the closest people in your life. Especially since this is a relative, the rift will always be there.

View Quoted Comment Oh yes, that was going to be my other option for sure! Because I would really rather not take out my cousin, and ruin our friendship! I will most likely definitely be talking to her about how I didn’t approve and it made me and the others very uncomfortable! Thank you!

View Quoted Comment The wedding is just 28 days away, another reason i’m not trying to completely just take her out but come up with another solution hopefully! I figured there wasn’t another way of going about it without causing some kind of conflict, after going through all the different ways I could say something last night, so I believe I am going to just ask her to calm down a little or we will have to find someone to take her place! That way i’m not kicking her out being we are semi close and so I don’t have to feel uncomfortable about her actions!

So, just for other readers, asking someone to be in the bridal party to fix a relationship or get closer with them usually doesn't work. People don't change just because they're in your wedding party.

OP, I'm sorry this is happening. I agree with PP's that kicking her out will likely result in the end of the relationship, and this is particularly tricky since it's family. Have you tried talking with her about your feelings?

Also if she doesn't end up being in the wedding party, don't replace her. That will end up making the second choice feel like exactly that, and that could be hurtful.

View Quoted Comment Yes I agree! i’ve decided i’m going to talk to her about it all and show her where i’m coming from with it all! And I definitely wouldn’t replace her if I were to boot her! But i’m going to talk to her💙